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jenniepepsi · Jul 4, 2009, 05:32 PM

My 5 year old daughter will be 6 in October and is starting school next month.

She is already being tested for possible aspergers syndrome and she DOES have ADHD. And also a non-specific speech delay.

Something that has been bothering me, is that she will repeat herself. A lot. She either repeats herself OVER AND OVER very quickly until she gets an answer (I don't ignore her, I answer her right away) or she will ask me, and I will say 'yes or no' and then she will seem to forget, and ask again as if she never even asked the first time.

Is this simply part of the ADHD or aspergers, or something else I need to worrie about? I have had ADHD all my life, including 'adult adhd' now, and I never had this problem :(

Thanks in advance for your help/

N0help4u · Jul 4, 2009, 08:13 PM

I believe it could be either one of those that causes her to do that. It could even be something as little as not being sure of herself too.

Alty · Jul 4, 2009, 08:19 PM

My kids repeat themselves all the time. It's a wonderful thing called "selective hearing". They ask the question and then don't listen to the answer.

By all means ask the therapist whether this is related to her other conditions, but it sounds like normal childhood behaviour to me.

jenniepepsi · Jul 6, 2009, 09:35 AM

Thanks ladies. Everyone else is telling me it could simply be normal 5 year old behavior too. I feel better :) I'm just so stressed out over everything that she is going through, I don't want her to go through MORE so I'm sort of watching her like a hawk and over analizing EVERYTHING. I need to work on that. Lol thanks again girls. Its nice to know I'm not the only one dealing with this.

Alty · Jul 6, 2009, 12:17 PM

Originally Posted by jenniepepsi

thanks ladies. everyone else is telling me it could simply be normal 5 year old behavior too. i feel better :) im just so stressed out over everything that she is going thru, i dont want her to go thru MORE so im sorta watching her like a hawk and over analizing EVERYTHING. i need to work on that. lol thanks again girls. its nice to know im not the only one dealing with this.

I know it's worrisome Jennie.

My son has been in speech therapy since he was 4 years old. He also has ADHD. Everything he accomplishes takes so much more work then it would for another kid. That's what makes his accomplishments so special.

He's such a great kid. He never gives up, never backs down, always looks forward. I've learned so much from him.

Just enjoy every moment. Don't over analyze, don't over worry, just enjoy, do the best you can for her and watch her grow, because she will.

jenniepepsi · Jul 6, 2009, 12:18 PM

Thanks hon. Your right. And I agree, it does make her achievements extra special. It sounds like our kids would be great buddys if they could get together lol.

Alty · Jul 6, 2009, 01:36 PM

Originally Posted by jenniepepsi

thanks hon. your right. and i agree, it does make her achievments extra special. it sounds like our kids would be great buddys if they coudl get together lol.

So true.

My son is now 10, almost 11. He's at that awkward pre-teen stage. No longer a child, not quite a teen, struggling somewhere in between.

He starting to like girls but has no idea why. He loves to play but no longer wants to be childish. He loves his family but doesn't want to be seen in public with us. Hugs and kisses at home, but not in front of friends. He's pulling away, which is normal, but hurtful. Darnit, I'm not ready for this.

Every day he's becoming a little man. He's not my baby anymore, but still, he is, in so many ways.

It's hard.

Enjoy the now, they grow up so fast.

jenniepepsi · Jul 6, 2009, 01:38 PM

Oh boy sounds fun. I can't wait for that age :) my heart goes out to you.

Alty · Jul 6, 2009, 01:40 PM

Originally Posted by jenniepepsi

oh boy sounds fun. i can't wait for that age :) my heart goes out to you.

Apparently this age is nothing compared to the teen years. I've only skimmed the surface.

Seriously, I don't know if both of us will survive the teen years. My daughter isn't far behind, she'll be 7 going on 15 in August. :(

Cabin, woods, really, I'm going. ;)

jenniepepsi · Jul 6, 2009, 01:41 PM

Haha can I come? My 5 year old seems to think she is 16 :P this morning I told her I would make her blue berry oatmeal and she goes 'YOU BETTER!"

Alty · Jul 6, 2009, 01:52 PM

Originally Posted by jenniepepsi

haha can i come? my 5 year old seems to think she is 16 :P this morning i told her i would make her blue berry oatmeal and she goes 'YOU BETTER!"

Whoa. Attitude, love it. It only gets worse.

The other day, at dinner, my daughter wouldn't do what I asked, she just shook her head and said "NO!" I said "the appropriate respone is yes ma'am, and I better hear it right away". Nope, not going to happen.

I decided to put my foot down. Stand in the corner until you're ready to say "yes ma'am" and do what you're told. She stood there for an hour and a half. I checked with her very 5 minutes, asked if she was ready to say what she was supposed to say and do what she was supposed to do. Nope.

Of all the things to inherit from me, stubbornness is not the thing I hoped for. ;)

I didn't back down though, and in the end she did what I asked, still, 1 1/2 hours? :rolleyes:

jenniepepsi · Jul 6, 2009, 01:57 PM

Haha your in for trouble!!

The other night I told ayla to clean her room and she argued with me till I said 'go do it now or your not going to nanas house tomorrow'

So she stomped away to her bedroom turned around and said "FINE I Didn't WANT TO BE WITH YOU IN THERE ANYWAY' and slammed the door!!

Alty · Jul 6, 2009, 02:13 PM

Originally Posted by jenniepepsi

haha your in for trouble!!!

the other night i told ayla to clean her room and she argued with me till i said 'go do it now or yoru not going to nanas house tomorrow'

so she stomped away to her bedroom turned around and said "FINE I DIDNT WANT TO BE WITH YOU IN THERE ANYWAY' and slammed the door!!!

I usually do the "I'm counting to three, and you better move before I get to 3" trick. It works most of the time, but the other day my son decided that he wasn't going to do it.

So I got to 3, we both looked at each other and my son said "now what?" my response "I honestly don't know, I've never gotten to 3 before". We ended up laughing and he did do what I asked.

Sometimes laughing together is much better then punishment. Sadly, like most parents, I'm often too stressed to laugh it off. It's something I want to learn.

jenniepepsi · Jul 6, 2009, 04:12 PM

Yeah we do the counting too. Lol ayla hasn't asked about 'what happens at 3' yet. Its only a matter of time I'm sure. :P

survivorboi · Aug 4, 2009, 07:34 AM

I agree with Altenweg and the rest. It sounds very normal to me.

I have a question, I thought was ADHD was just a symptom where you have trouble sitting down or being quiet for a long time? Everything posted up there sounds a lot more complex then that.

N0help4u · Aug 4, 2009, 08:42 AM

Yeah it can be really complex depending on the kid. Like they can't focus, restless, not listening and following direction etc... then often the results can be defiance and so forth.

Alty · Aug 4, 2009, 09:47 AM

Originally Posted by survivorboi

I agree with Altenweg and the rest. It sounds very normal to me.

I have a question, I thought was ADHD was just a symptom where you have trouble sitting down or being quiet for a long time? Everything posted up there sounds a lot more complex then that.

Attention deficit Hyperactivity disorder. It depends on the severity.

With my son it affects his learning drastically. In the beginning of last year, before we started medication, he couldn't write in a straight line, he's 10 by the way.

His writing was all over the place because he couldn't focus his brain on one area of the page. The teacher would cut out strips of paper, get him to write on those (it was easier because the strips were smaller so they were easier to focus on) and then glue them to a sheet.

He was having trouble with shapes. He knew them, could identify them, but he couldn't draw them, not well anyway.

Since he's been on meds and put into a special class, he's soared. He now has no trouble writing, or doing shapes, or sitting still, etc. etc.

A lot of his temper tantrums etc. were due to frustration. Imagine knowing something, understanding something, but not being able to convey what you know properly because a part of your brain won't let you.

That's the best way I can explain it, from a mom's point of view. :)

danielnoahsmommy · Aug 4, 2009, 09:52 AM

I do the counting to 3 with my 6 year old. I said you want me to count to three. He said what happens when you get to 3. I said do you really want to find out? He did what he was told real fast and did not ask again.

Alty · Aug 4, 2009, 09:56 AM

Originally Posted by danielnoahsmommy

I do the counting to 3 with my 6 year old. I said you want me to count to three. he said what happens when you get to 3. i said do you really want to find out? He did what he was told real fast and did not ask again.

Do you have a plan if you get to three? If so, can you share it with me? I'm still lost. I just always thought I'd never get to 3. ;) :(

Alty · Aug 5, 2009, 03:51 PM

survivorboi agrees: How does it make you feel??

How does my sons ADHD make me feel?

Like I failed him somehow. Like I did something wrong while I was pregnant with him, or I gave him some dormant gene I didn't know about.

It makes me feel helpless because I am. It makes me feel angry because he has to deal with this every day and I don't know how he feels.

I feel frustrated because I can't fix this, because the only alternative is medication, and I hate to medicate my child.

I also feel grateful that this was diagnosed and he's getting the help he needs. I feel lucky because he's a great kid and he's a part of my life. I feel proud because he's never given up, he's always done his best and he's jumped over obstacles that most of us can't even imagine.

All in all, I feel like a mom. :)