[earlthepearl433]

My girlfriend dumped me because I hurt her, but she says she is still in love with me, we had 5 years together and we talked of marriage, now she says she is still in love with me but its not the same as it was, she cries all the time about the change in her life but she is too scared to continue with me for fear of being hurt, she has moved an hour away and she doesn't want to see me, she says it hurts her too much, she tells me to move on, she came down last week to visit her sister and she ended up coming over during the night and we cuddled with each other for the rest of the night, I tried to convince her to give me a second chance but she justs cries and tells me she cant, its like she is afraid to let herself be with me, I love her with all my being and want her to know that what we have is righteous, I tell her I will change and never hurt her but she is unwavering, what do I do here, I won't let this be over, we belong together, she told her sister that she will probably regret this and that she only wants the best for me, she wants to stay friends but I think I should avoid her calls to make her miss me and make her feel that my love is gone, what is my next line of play, I need this woman and am going crazy without her,

[jolienoire]

Let it go. It's sounds so simple yet so hard I know. But you must do it, because if you annoy her you'll risk the chance of never being with her again.

Do you realize she can tell you anything but her actions are speaking volumes, she is distancing herself from you.
You can't make or force her to be with you, the only thing you have control over is your own self. Stop bargaining and begging, humiliating yourself only to get the same reaction. There are many threads that deal with coping with a break up, Try reading those to help you out. You'll see that many people have been where you are and has overcome those feelings.
You must end all contact, and start your road to recovery. Why would you want to be with someone in which you have to beg and force them to be with you. You will have to do the No Contact in order to heal, every time you see or speak to her you will just be going backwards. Your ultimate goal in life is to move forward. Change is inevitable growth is optional.

You do not need her, if you keep thinking that you will not recover, you need yourself to realize that friends for now is out of the question.

[I wish]

I'm really sorry to hear about your situation. Don't push her anymore. She knows that you want a second chance. If she wanted to give you another chance, she will let you know.

Don't put anymore pressure on her. Leave her alone. Let her sort out her confusion.

You should focus on doing your own thing and learning from your mistakes. If you don't change, then even if you get back together, you will make the same mistakes again. Don't think that you can change overnight. It takes time to change your personlity and correct mistakes. So focus on making yourself a better person. Let her be. She will find you if she wants to start things up again.

[talaniman]

You tried and she didn't change her mind so now its time to leave her alone and rebuild your life without her in it. She had her chance to talk and work through things, now its your chance to heal and get your head together and prove to yourself you CAN live without her.

Easier said than done, but do the work that you must, on yourself, and let her get over herself too.

Your in shock now, and really just need some time to yourself, to figure out what to do with yourself next. Take that time.