[lizzie-bby]

I need serious advice please...

OK I'm making this long story short... while I was still in High School I met this guy and he was just like a sweet kind of boy you just become like best friends with... then little did I know we became boyfriend and girlfriend I really wasn't interested in him as he was to me. So then as time passed more than a year it was like we grew so CLOSE together insseperable. I had already had a past relation I wasn't over yet so as time passed I went back out with my Ex and I left this sweet boy behind he wanted me back for so long but I didn't want to. I didn't know what I left behind really, he began going out with his ex also and I still wanted his friendship but he turned his back on me. Then I realized that my Ex didn't fill my heart with joy and happiness as he did so I wanted him back there's when he went his own separate way and didn't want anything what-so-ever with me at some point I thought he hated me I couldn't get over him I really loved him so much... a few months later he shows up in my life and wants to begin to talk as if nothing happened... some part of me says I miss you ill take you back but then I don't feel the same for him because he hurt me so much he broke me completely... what should I do?? He tells me he mest up big time and he's going to prove to me.

[57373]

He hurt you?

You're the one who went back with your ex and rejected him (what I assume to be) for over a year


Now you want him back?

He may or may not have self respect,if he does,you're doomed.

If he doesn't and you get him back,congrats you have a pushover man.

[kctiger]

How is he the one who messed up? Also, are you in college right now? From the reading of your post, it would be hard to believe.

Look, you need to quit acting like you were the one who was betrayed. This happens. Live without a boyfriend for awhile so you can actually make a judgement call based on rational thoughts not feelings that are way too reaction based. Why is it you depend so much an ex for happiness?

[I wish]

Here's the chronology:

1) You lead him on by giving him a chance, when you didn't even like him (your problem, he was kept in the dark and thought you cared about him)

2) You kept hanging on to him until you decided that you want to go back to your ex (your problem for leading him on, how would he know you still had feelings for your ex?)

3) He realizes that he lost you, so he chooses to move on with his life, you can expect him to wait around for you while you're back with your ex (your problem for letting him go, you can't blame him for wanting to let go and move on)

4) He doesn't want a friendship with you because he does still care about you, but it's too painful for him to hang on to his feelings for you, so it's easier for him to move on (no one's problem, you ditched him so you can't stop him from moving on)

5) You break up with your ex and he wants to rekindle thing (no one's problem, he just never stopped having feelings for you)

How is he the bad guy again?

[liz28]

You sound really selfish and foolish. This guy did nothing wrong and I don't even know why he thinks he did.

You left him because you had the grass is greener on the other side syndrome. Then you had the nerves to get mad at him because he went back to his ex instead of waiting for you.

Then you got even madder when he didn't want to be your friend--can you blame him?

Please admitted to your wrong and be woman enough to say "I messed up" don't blame him. You're the cause for your own hurt not him.

[talaniman]

Instead of even considering jumping into something with an ex, again, by the way, for you both, how about having fun just being single, and friends?

It's a red flag, when people depend on others for happiness, and a bigger red flag, when they keep going back to exes for that happiness.

I think you both mistake intense feelings of attraction, for love and happiness. You can justify it any way you want,

My Ex didn't fill my heart with joy n happiness as he did so I wanted him back

But the fact is you have a lot to learn about your own feelings and how to deal with them.

Stay single, and learn about yourselves.

[slapshot_oi]

Hurt you? You left him for your ex, you got what you deserved.

Grow up.