[LukaMagnotta]

Ok, I'm a guy and I'm Bi. Im 27. I met my boyfriend who is very closeted eight months ago and he is 21 and very nice and intelligent but immature.

I came out of the closet for him and I changed my entire life. He has made almost no changes for me.

In the beginning he would show me an enormous amout of affection and he would take the bus to see me everyday... he would bring me presents, he would kiss me all the time ( without me asking him) he would want to spend the night at my house... now he is becoming more distant and he won't kiss me or hug me unless I beg him..

He always telles me he is hot or tired.

He hates doing everything I want to do... Movies, Roadtrips,sports,malls,bowing,beaches,casinos,boat tours... etc And when I beg him to go with me he acts miserable the entire time and it ruins my time.

He tells me that he wants to go to a bathhouse... he wants us to have threesomes all the time because he's 'horny and young' so I have to get dragged to a bathouse and have sex with him and these strangers... I am so frustrated because I don't want to do it... but he says "thats what interests me" OK... he is a sexaholic and a nympho... I don't call it equal when I want to go to a movie and he doesn't... and he wants to go to a bathhouse and I don't... he makes the comparason... how can he compare a bathouse and a movie theatre??

he always gets me to have sex with random people and he invites them over to my house and screws them in the other room... while I'm in the livingroom... this is so he can cheat in front of my back instead of behind my back.

He is incapable of maintaining a healthy relationship and he has to have sex constantly... when I was 21 I was able to keep it in my pants.

Now when I hug him in public he gets very very mad... he won't even sleep at my house because his mom won't let him?

I can't handle all his messed up life... I love him but I am beginning to think we are not compatible??

He doesn't want to do anything except sex with strangers? I want a normal life...

I feel I am a very attractive man but I have a horrible self esteem due to my boyfriend not wanting to show any affectionate feelings towards me. All his friends think I'm gorgeous and other men I work around - but the one who needs to notice me and have affection for me doesn't.
When we are out in public he is always checking out other women and men - even ones not as attractive but always younger. I just can't understand and neither can the friends I have that are guys. They state that they don't understand how he can keep his hands off me. I'm not sure if it is me, or if it is him? Should I dump him for a better guy, someone that does think I'm gorgeous and can't keep their hands of me? I know there aren't a shortage of guys around me.

Luka Magnotta


This is me, I feel really lost and upset and alone... what should I do?

[justcurious55]

Dump him. No one needs someone like that in their lives. And you should never feel forced to do things you aren't comfortable with.

[Gemini54]

So let me get this right:

He doesn't like the same things you do.
He doesn't show you physical affection.
he's emotionally immature.
He's horny all the time, but not with you.
He wants to have random sex with strangers.
he puts you at risk of STD's with his behavior.
He has sex with random strangers in your house while you're in another room.

But, his mom won't let him sleep at you house. (LOL!)

Er, what do you see in this guy? He sounds like a childish, selfish prick.

Sure it's your first relationship with a man, but surely you can do better. It's your choice to stay with someone that treats you badly, so if yourself esteem is suffering then you can change that by making different choices.

I might add, that appearances aren't everything - respect, communication and compassion are more important in a relationship rather that how sexy or attractive you are, or how sexy or attractive other people think you are.

My advice: kick him to the kerb and do a little growing up yourself.