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    Jun 28, 2009, 07:41 AM
    How can I suppress my anxieties and frustrations for the time being?
    My girlfriend and I found out a few weeks ago that she is pregnant which was unplanned but definitely not unwanted. I realise that this is going to be a struggle for the both of us obviously her more so but I keep getting weird changes in mood, and although I know it's going to be a time when her emotions are all over the place I need a little advice on how to deal with my own emotions as we bicker quite a lot about silly things and retaliate to each others silly remarks that can seem to one or the other as if we are having a slight dig about something. We both enjoy spending time with each other greatly when we are OK but the slightest little thing can make me have a stupid mood swing and vise versa which is more frustrating than anything because we both know its silly but we can both push the other 1 into a strop just as easily as the other. It needs to stop which I am fully aware of but I am finding it difficult to keep the good times going and really need some help on how I can actually carry out the tasks I need to with my life but also forget about the emotions, particularly frustration involved with those tasks, so I can focus on keeping my lovely girlfriend happy and cared for in her time of need. I understand that she needs the support although she quite often says that she doesn't when we bicker about the fact that I where I can and cannot work (e.g. anywhere but a slaughter house as there is 1 up the road that I would definitely be able to get a job in, but it goes against her beliefs as a vegetarian. Although I just see it as a job and money to support us financially obviously, but she has made it clear she wouldn't live with me or take any money off me if it were made by working there!! ). Frustrations are made worse by these things and make it very hard for me not to say anything when I should just respect her beliefs and keep my mouth shut apparently but I do feel a lot of the time that I am just the sperm donor and am having to make it clear to her that she needs to include me a lot more for this to be a little easier as it makes me quite excited and well all quivery with the thought of being a dad. Help would be wonderful if there is anyone that knows a little or a lot.
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    Jun 28, 2009, 07:52 AM

    When you want to argue, bite your tongue and ask yourself is it worth it. Pick your battles.
    Don't be impulsive.

    When you get anxiety picture yourself in a calm place like how it is going to be when you are holding/playing with your baby,

    I don't know what to tell you about work because I can see both sides on the slaughter house thing. Sometimes you have to do whatever it takes to get by but I can understand it bothering her.

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