[aguila]

I need for someone to give me an honest opinion and tell me what should I do or if I'm not reasonable...

I married a man with a child 11 years old (wonderful child) I have three kids myself from a previous marriage... his parents were very happy that he was getting married with a woman that had kids so that this child can have companion. Ok that sounds good. But my inlaws feel that they have to invite the ex wife to family events because they don't want the girl to feel bad. They invited me to a beach house in a couple of weeks but also invited her a few days before I get there and she is to leave the morning I get there. But they want to me to send the kids a week before because other wise their grandaghter will be bored so my kids will be with the exwife who I know dislikes my kids. They even asked me If I would not stay there while the ex was there.

So I feel that they are so worry about keeping a relationship with her because of the child which I honestly don't have a problem but trying to do things all toguether just does not feel good, and feeling like my kids are just being used to entertain my step daughter does not feel good either.

I have a great relationship with my husband now and I feel that they should worry more about both the son and grandaughter bieng happy.

They are very nice with me, what bothers is just all the interactions that they want to have with me and ex at the same time. I want to have my privacy... I don't want to see her face every time I turn around.

There is more but for now see if any one can give me there opionion please!!

[snow124]

I don't think it's fair that you're being asked to leave YOUR kids with your in-laws and your husband's ex-wife. That's bull.

I don't see why she has to be at family functions. Why continue the charade of doing that to make the kid feel good? They're divorced, they shouldn't present it as anything different.