[ConfusedandLost]

I met this woman about 5 months ago while on business 2hrs away. I was going to be there for a period of 4 months and really wasn't looking for a relationship. She was everything I was looking for and things between us progressed very fast. She moved in with me when my term was up due to us agreeing that a long distance relationship would not work. Everything was great, we were all about each other and you could see how much love and affection we had for each other.

Then about a month ago after we purchased a $20,000 Jeep Cherokee together she says we need to have space and she is moving out and getting her own place. She said that her past is making her feel this way (she was raped 3 times and molested 2 times). She just needed time away from me to clear her head. So I give her the space needed and barely hear from her. Acquaintances try and fill my head with stupid stuff and I start accusing her of things she is not doing. I can see it's just pushing her farther and farther away. So I just leave the contact up to her.

Just 2 days ago I get a text saying that when I get home I will fully understand why she pulled away. I get home and read this note she is 2 months pregnant and got scared, she didn't want to keep the child and was afraid I would make her keep it. Based on how I wanted a family and kids down the road. She has been racking up debt like crazy by sticking around because she says she loves me and misses me every day and wished that this never happened. So now she is 2 hours away and breaking the news to her mom, she is moving there and leaving me. Her mom hates her for wanting to not keep the child and wants her to keep it.

I have been eliminated from all contact now and don't even know what to do. This is possibly the hardest thing to endure.

[talaniman]

Any body ever call you impulsive?? That's what you appear to be, and the only balance for that is some good clear thought.

Besides the finances, which you can work on, there is nothing you can do about what she does, nor should you try. Back away while you can.

Too much, to fast, crash, and burn.

[chuff]

I really don't understand what your question is? Do you want to keep the baby? Do you want her? I'm not even sure I'd trust the baby is yours. In fact how do you know she's even pregnant? She lives two hours away and her first reaction is leave the guy who gave her a free housing? If she can't face the guy who got her pregnant what the hell is she doing having sex. We usually say that about a guy, how strange it's a woman.

[Rushed19]

Why don't you keep the child even if you aren't together? Unless you don't want it but that's an option.