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danny19 · Jun 17, 2009, 10:09 AM

I have been in a brill relationship for over 18 months with the girl of my dreams , we did everything together and had a very active physical relationship .

However she recently started work at a new company and has become very moody , unwilling to talk without becoming aggressive and cold where sex is concerned.

The new job is a lot more demanding than her last one and she says that she hates it but in the present climate can't find anywhere else .

However I get the feeling that she is enjoying the work more than she is letting on , as whenever I ask how her day was she would reply boring and hated it .
This is not what I see whenever I pick her up when she finishes , she will walk out with other staff and be happy and smiling , until she gets into the car .

Then she is back to being very quiet and withdrawn.

I have confronted her about it without success... I need help... Please

kctiger · Jun 17, 2009, 10:22 AM

There are a LOT of times I don't like my job, but I am not going to sit around and be an a$$ to my co-workers, so her behavior is understandable.

If she hates her job it is something she will have to deal with. You just need to be there for her and be a bit more understanding. The economic climate right now is dictating that whatever job you get, you are stuck with, for the time being. Making a transition to a new job takes time, and patience. Not just for the person doing it, but for those around that are there to be supportive.

Bottom line, just be there for her, support her and get through this together. Don't pressure her into "sex" and realize that this is a tough time right now.

talaniman · Jun 17, 2009, 10:34 AM

Give her time, and space to adjust to her new environment.

You sound insecure, and needy to me, maybe you need some adjustments yourself. Life changes us all the time.

Talaniman Rule - Always check your own attitudes, and motives, before you question someone else's.

jmw0713 · Jun 17, 2009, 11:23 AM

Layoff the whole "Am I losing her" bit. She is going through a fairly big adjustment right now. She will come around if you stop badgering her about things.

I wish · Jun 17, 2009, 01:36 PM

If I had a crappy job, I would be thrilled to see my significant other after work. So, before you blame it on her job, make sure it's not your problem that is causing her to feel this way.