[patrick911]

Hey my friends I never thought I would be on this website asking for help but times in my life have brought me to it. I spent my junior and senior year in high school with a beautiful girl in a two year relationship. We went to different schools and lived about twenty minutes away which made our relationship even stronger. We were each others first loves and were madly in love, I've met her family, went on vacations with her and my own family. We have basically had a strong amazing relationship.

The funny thing is she got two jobs softball and had family issues which made it hard for us to talk and made our relationship stressful the last couple months , she eventually asked for a break about a month ago from today because she had graduation and a bunch of sneior stuff going on and knew we couldn't hang out.. During this break she told me that she's unhappy and needs to become happy with herself and wants to get back with me without a doubt. Although I accepted the break I argued about it and texted pretty much once a day to say goodnight. Then she went to disneywith her class I didn't text her for four days but basically told her she can text me from time to time if she want during the trip.

She comes back I call her and she calls me back and tells me that she feels like we were drifitng the last months and that our relationship isn't the same so she officially breaks up with me. I don't contact her except a week and a few days letter to acknwoledge her graduation. I then hear she is talking and flirting with other guys so I overeacted and flipped out on her about it which I regret at this point but I can't go back. Her friends are telling me that she has no more feelings left for me

After the argument I eneded up telling her that it took me longer but I accept the break up and want to end on good terms. She just said OK and I suggested we remain friends that was about five days ago we haven't spoken since. I love this girl with a passion and I know she must miss me but the wuestion I'm asking is will she eventualyl contact me? Do I stop contacting her and move on from the time being? I want to be with her again whether its now or later in life because I know its meant to be - I really believe that this is all due to college confusion, last summer with her friends and not wanting a relationship. What do I do my friends?

[I wish]

The problem with first love is that you're not sure of the signs of when it's time to call it quits. In your case, it's not like this happened overnight. You guys drifted away slowly. Both of you gave it a shot and now it's time to accept the reality and move on.

The fact that you are affected by updates from her, such as her flirting with other guys, means that you should stop talking to her. Here are the no contact rules: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...qs-332732.html

Until you stop having feelings for her, it's a bad idea to puruse a friendship. Reason being, if you still have feelings for her, then you will continue to over-analyze all the little signs and details, which will only cause you more pain and suffering. Instead, implement the no contact rules until you cleared your system of all feelings for her. Once you've moved on, then you guys can possibly start a friendship.

Don't worry about losing her as a friend, because if you were meant to be friends, you will find each other again one day. Otherwise, barely anyone ends up being friends with their exes.

[talaniman]

After the argument I ended up telling her that it took me longer but I accept the break up and want to end on good terms.

Way to, if you meant it.

she just said OK and I suggested we remain friends that was about five days ago we haven't spoken since.

After 2 years as a couple it natural to change that with not contacting each other. It gives you time to adjust to the situation.

I love this girl with a passion and I know she must miss me but the question I'm asking is will she eventually contact me?

Maybe eventually, you just never know.

do I stop contacting her and move on from the time being?

That would be the best thing to do, as waiting for a call, or for someone to see if someone changes their mind is a perfect waste of time and accomplishes nothing except bring you misery, pain, and confusion.

I want to be with her again whether its now or later in life because I know its meant to be

I understand, I would rather be rich instead of handsome, but thats not realistic at this time. Neither is wanting what you had back.

I really believe that this is all due to college confusion, last summer with her friends and not wanting a relationship.

Not true at all, She is doing what most young people do, growing up, and exploring the world, and thats what you need to do also, explore your own options, and opportunities, with out her, and make a life that you enjoy, and are happy with. Thats what she is doing, while you sit and wonder, and want.

what do I do my friends?

You leave her life alone, and get your own.