[fahhuhhteaa]

Love.. I can never fine the true honest opinion of that four letter word.
Not in a relationship, not in my family. & not with myself.

[nikosmom]

Well the first place to start is with yourself. You cannot love someone else until you love yourself.

Self-love = self-respect and self-respect is attractive to others.

If you have low self-esteem, is there a counselor or someone else you can confide in? (a friend, neighbor, respected community elder, or clergy)

Why don't you love yourself and did someone tell you that you were unworthy of being loved?

[fahhuhhteaa]

Basically.. I'm told I'm ugly & my body is very uneven.
Everything is skiinnny exccept my hips!
My hips are wide and annoying.
I won't lie, I do have low self-esteem... "/
I wish, I could accpect myself.

[Fr_Chuck]

Then do, don't concern yourself with what others think. If you want to ( for yourself) work on some tone up, great, if not, that is great too)

Let me see I am old, fat, balding with one bad eye. Guess what I feel great about myself, and care less what others think. And I find that you get love if you give love.

[fahhuhhteaa]

I try not too.
But its hard.
When I see a gorgeous girl in a magazine or on TV (no homo)
I always want to try to make myself look prettier.
But the only prob. My dad.
He never lets me do anything.

[nikosmom]

Us "normal" people can't judge ourselves by what we see on TV and in magazines. Those people are PAID to look like that.

Here's one for you... I'm a mom... so my body 'shows' that I bore a child. It's not the worst body, but it shows that a little person once lived there. Now the moviestars are back to their prepregnancy weight in 2 weeks. But you know what, they've got nutritionists, trainers, stylists... a whole team of people to make them that way. It's their job to look good.

Like Chuck said, if you want to do some toning or change your hairstyle then do it. But do it for you. True beauty comes from within first.

How old are you?

[fahhuhhteaa]

I'm 15 & 1/2 ma'am

[nikosmom]

im 15 & 1/2 ma'am

"ma'am" :eek: :rolleyes:

I was asking about your age because your body will go through a LOT of changes over the next few years. You have to be patient. Just focus on being healthy. Eat good foods, exercise, drink plenty of water, and get enough sleep.

You're also at a vulnerable age and your father probably wants to protect you from the world. It's natural for parents to want to be watchful over their children. Maybe ease into gaining more freedoms. Start participating in some afterschool activities. You'll meet new friends and you'll automatically have a social life with people with whom you share a common interest. Then you can ask him, "Hey Dad, you know Jennie from the Yearbook committee- she invited me to meet her at a matinee Saturday." Once he gets to know your friends from school, he may be more comfortable letting you spend time with them unsupervised.

In the meantime, to gain more freedom: prove yourself responsible! Parents tend to trust kids more that are responsible. Stay on top of your schoolwork, keep up with your chores, etc. Show him that you are able to take control!

[fahhuhhteaa]

My dad -
He's an angry person.
He never understands.
Its his way or no way.
He's commanding.. "/

But thank you (:

[nikosmom]

Have you ever tried talking to him about your feelings? It's hard, I dealt with the same from my mom growing up. We're still not super-close because she was/is a very controlling person. But one thing I've always had on my said is that I've proven myself to be responsible.

Perhaps do you have another adult that may consider talking with him?

[fahhuhhteaa]

Its too hard.
He'll get angry.
He doesn't care what I have to sayy.

[nikosmom]

Anything worth having will be hard.

Are you afraid he will do something to you?

[fahhuhhteaa]

He already has.

[ajGambino]

I'm sorry about your situation but you need to get off the pitty pot man. How do you expect to feel love and feel better about yourself if you're always looking at the negativity?

For one, feeling sorry for yourself isn't attractive and is a huge turnoff to most people.

Two, feeling sorry for yourself makes yourself feel like a loser, a coward and always hopeless.


There's things to come and go which you cannot alter, things that you can't change for the better or worse... but you can make every obstacle an opportunity to gain a positive outlook on it. Try to stay positive to yourself, things will fall into place for you. It doesn't happen over night, give it time and enjoy the life lessons that stroll your way.

Love and accept yourself, that's all you need to do man.

[nikosmom]

he already has.

What has he done to you?

[fahhuhhteaa]

He's kicked me once..