[Rahylee]

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 2 years. The first 9 months we were all cuddly and lovey dovey. Now it's like routine, he comes over we watch TV or go see a movie or something, he kisses me bye then goes home. When he comes over I have to ask for a kiss! It's like he doesn't think it's important. I'll cuddle up to him and wrap my arms around him and kiss him and stuff like we used to do, cause I'm trying to be the old us. He'll tell me I'm being clingy, it's like he forgot that people do that in a relationship. I've brought this issue up about how I feel like he doesn't love me any more, and he just tells me I'm crazy, that I'm the one for him blah blah blah, but he never shows it anymore. The only feelings he shows to me are anger, hornyness, and comfort when I'm sad. Lately he's been getting very angry about little things, like flipping out! Could he be bi-polar? I need help I love him and he loves me but I need, and crave physical touching and I hardly get that anymore. What should I do?

[talaniman]

How old are you? All relationships change over time and through honest communications both partners can work together to make the adjustments needed to sustain a relationship.

When the communications break down, usually so does the relationship. So how old are you both?

[ayejay0601]

Hi. Yes relationships do change. However, I would be wary of being too clingy. That can push people away. When significant others start getting angry at little things, I always see that as a red flag. I would try to give him a little space for a few days (but don't tell him you are giving him space). Just my thoughts...

[none12345]

After the few months, the initial excitement is gone and it cools down but that doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't love you anymore.

[makapuu]

It sounds like the honeymoon is over. It doesn't mean that the love is gone, just the touchy part. If you need more physical contact, then you should have a serious discussion with your boyfriend.
It seems a bit odd that your boyfriend doesn't voluntarily show any affection, and now calls you clingy. My boyfriend broke up with his last girlfriend because she was too clingy and it made him uncomfortable. However, he and I have dated for almost two years and are still in the honeymoon phase.

[teastalk]

Physical love ends after time. Married couples don't have sex as frequently. The newness wears off.

The true test of a relationship is just being there for each other. That you guys can just sit in the same room and feel comfortable but happy. Somehow a spark just keeps living even if you aren't talking to each other.

[dark_alley]

Hi. Yes relationships do change. However, I would be wary of being too clingy. That can push people away. When significant others start getting angry at little things, I always see that as a red flag. I would try to give him a little space for a few days (but dont tell him you are giving him space). Just my thoughts...

I agree, and would even say it sounds like a red flag, maybe you should try not being so physical and see how that makes you feel, if you can't stand not being able to touch him, that should be your sign to really think about the relationship as a whole. There are other things you like about him right?

[teastalk]

Maybe she likes being physical (kissing, hugging) because it makes her feel like her boyfriend is being loving. If he's not showing affection (kissing, hugging), then it's just like being friends. No body wants that kind of platonic relationship in what is suppose to be a romantic relationship. Otherwise there would be no difference!

Perhaps she's feeling like she needs the physical affection for her to feel his love?

I can understand where she's coming from if this is true.

However, love isn't just the physical (hugging and kissing), it's also that he reassures you. As long as he reassures her, there shouldn't be a problem. As long as he tells her that he does love her and he shows in other ways that he loves her, then things are fine. For example, if he thinks of her during the day and gives her a call or brings her a flower from his yard, then I don't see a problem with the relationship except that she's still in the honeymoon phase and he's done with that part of the relationship.

Anyway, please let us know how this all turns out!