[LoveMeElectric]

Okay. So the names have been changed in this.

First of all, I'm 16 and both the guys in this are 17.
My boyfriend, let's call him Bob, HAD a best friend named.. Tom.
Now let me explain (as best I can) why they aren't friends anymore.
So I met Tom first. I kind of liked him at first, but I went out with another guy (he's a real jerk and has nothing to do with this lol), so I told my best friend that she should go out with Tom. They did for like... oh gosh half a year I think. I broke up with the first guy (for liking my best friend, who went out with Tom. We'll call her Emma), and I started talking to Bob. We went out like 2 weeks after we started talking because we both REALLY liked each other. Of course, he's Tom's best friend.
But while this was all going on, I was becoming better friends with Tom and I couldn't stop thinking about him.
So then while I was falling in love with Bob, Tom and I were fighting a lot (we became best friends), and eventually he just said that he didn't want to be friends. This made Bob stop talking to Tom which made Tom REALLY upset (keep in mind, Bob and Tom were BEST friends and they lived right down the street from each other).
But I could NOT get over Tom. I kept talking to him to see if he was still mad at me. All the details aren't that important, but he was mad at the fact that I said I hated him and that I never wanted to talk to him again and to go to hell etc etc (ALL out of ANGER! I did not mean any of it and I told this to him).
So after like 5 months or so of talking to him randomly to see if he was still upset, it's now May and Bob and I have been with each other for a year and 4 months. I really do love Bob, but we've been fighting for like 4-5 months about stupid stuff and it's been a lot... I told him that if we didn't fix it, I'd be gone. I've told this to him about 6 times or so. :(
So, Tom finally told me that I can have another chance and we've been talking for like a month and last night he told me he cared about me still (I'm not sure if he meant as a friend or more). But while we were best friends, whenever we would fight, he'd play the song Learning To Fall by Boys Like Girls. Read the lyrics, please, it's important.
Bob gets jealous of me and Tom, but I think I like Tom. I CANNOT stop thinking about him and I'm thinking that I lost it with Bob. I still love Bob, I just don't think I'm IN love with him.. He's such a wonderful guy though, and Tom is too. (by the way Tom is single right now), but I don't think Bob treats me the way I deserve (I have really low self esteem so I'm not sure... )
I just don't know what to think. I think that maybe Tom might like me, but I'm not sure if it's just me HOPING. If you need any more information, just ask.
And finally: What should I do?

[Justwantfair]

I think you should leave both of them alone.

If you have self esteem problems, then you need to be focusing on yourself. All this drama is unnecessary and not a foundation to a relationship.

Let both Bob and Tom go, hopefully they can repair their friendship, as it shouldn't have been separated for a girl. You can focus on the things that you need to do... feeling good about yourself, schoolwork, extra curricular activities, researching colleges. Things a sixteen year old should really be doing to benefit her future. There is a great chance that you will not know either of these two in your adult life, but there is a 100% chance that you going to be in your future, make it a bright one.

[LoveMeElectric]

Well seeing how I've already tried to forget one of them, how is it possible to forget BOTH?
I'd at least want to be friends with them, you know?
No use being all torn up from trying to forget them :(.

Thank you for your advice.

[Sphira]

Trying to build a castle on a broken wire fence is never a good idea cause all the holes in the fence will snap and down goes the castle your relatinship romatically with bob and tom is totally down the drain if I was you I would give them both some space and find your way in life enjoy being single it's the best feeling in the world and after bob and tom have themselves sorted be friends with them but take it cave man slow

Love is the train that never stops but to get the ticket takes a lot of hard work

[talaniman]

Your sure causing a lot of chaos in the lives of two guys because you want them both in your life.

Either you're a confused young lady who wants both guys, or you're a drama queen that needs a lot of attention.

How else can you explain not being able to make up your mind who you really want?

Leave them both alone until you figure it out, or do you just NEED someone to feel good about yourself??