[turn tables]

I getting married in aug me and my soon to be husband are auguring more and more he keeps saying to me when we argue and in a fight, why do you want to get marred to me, and or I don't know why we are getting married and or things need to change or this isn't going to work! And he just said to me today the past 60 days he hated to come home to see me. Ok like why is he saying this to me now? He didn't seem to hate coming home to me, maybe he's saying that to hurt me? All the wedding plans are made. The honey moon is booked. The fights are not big at all. We have been together for 5 years and got engaged 1 year ago. Before that we broke up 2 times and got back together with in the 4 years. I can't see my life with out him but the stuff he's saying makes me think to write this. What should I do, spend a night in a hotel? I have one else to talk to about this, Help!

[justcurious55]

Spending the night, or maybe a few, away sounds like a great idea. If I were you, I'd be saying, you hate coming home to see me? Fine. Have fun coming home to an empty house. That of course would be in the note I would leave after I'd packed some of my stuff up before he came home...
Take a little break. And if/when he wants you to come back go back with the understanding that things need to be worked out before you get married. I would recommend pre-marital couples counseling.

[ordinaryguy]

He's getting cold feet and spoiling for a fight. I'd say no wedding without some serious couples therapy/counseling.

[I wish]

It sounds like neither of you even know why you are gettings in fights.

Why don't you guys talk it out. Figure out what you're fighting about first before even fighting about it.

Cold feet is my guess.

[Homegirl 50]

Get some premarital counseling. Make sure he's not getting cold feet.
Why did you break up before? Maybe you never resolved those issues. Get some counseling before you walk down the isle.