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    #1

    May 30, 2009, 07:02 PM
    Hi you, I have man trouble.
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    I met a ex boyfriend on Facebook last week. We went out when I was 16, he was 26. He has 2 kids I've got 1, were both single, I had not spoken to him for 8 years as I was in a relationship, and so was he. Anyway we met up as he asked to come to my house, so I agreed and we soon ended up having sex, as the old feelings came back from chatting with him. He said he would call me, but hasn't a week later, I text him the day after we met to say good night, but he didn't reply till the next morning. He said he was asleep, and he was going to text me and say he liked it when we met up. So I text him back, saying "do you want to see me again"? He said, "yes, I definitely do, but I'm off, and out at the moment I'll text you later". I'm still waiting 3 days later. What do you guys think? I'm 27 now, and sick of one night stands etc, I deleted his number. Have I been played? Does it sound like he likes me, or wouldn't he text by now if he did? Xx
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    #2

    May 30, 2009, 07:48 PM

    Where are all the girls that will text me after years .

    Sorrry sounds like a one night stand
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    #3

    May 30, 2009, 08:27 PM

    You guys broke up for a reason... not sure why you're opening old wounds.

    You were 16 when you dated him and now you're 27. So 11 years later, you see him one time and you have sex with him...

    You got to have more self-esteem than that. Take it slow... do you even know what he's been up to this past 11 years?
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    #4

    May 30, 2009, 08:56 PM

    Wow, could you write that again in english, no text talk? I only got through the first sentence, then I gave up.

    Text talk is against the rules here. Please use complete words and sentences using the best english you are capable of.

    There is a spell check button for your convenience.

    Thanks
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    #5

    May 31, 2009, 08:04 AM

    It souunds like your legs open at the drop of a hat. Seriously.

    He got what he wanted after 8 years in one night. Done deal. Learn from your mistake and let this go, there are NO feelings involved, clearly.
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    May 31, 2009, 08:19 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by kctiger View Post
    It souunds like your legs open at the drop of a hat. Seriously.

    He got what he wanted after 8 years in one night. Done deal. Learn from your mistake and let this go, there are NO feelings involved, clearly.
    What's the problem with having sex when you both fancy each other
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    May 31, 2009, 08:27 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by xbox360 View Post
    whats the problem with having sex when you both fancy each other
    Both fancy each other?
    Look at you'r post he was just horney
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    May 31, 2009, 09:17 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by xbox360 View Post
    whats the problem with having sex when you both fancy each other
    With a mentality like that you deserve to get used as you did. That is one of the single dumbest and most immature statements I have ever heard. Sex comes with responsibility and emotions... if you both fancy each other, kiss, start with baby steps. It had been 8 years, and you happened to be the easiest booty call that guy has ever had. You don't have man problems, you have self control problems. Men are the least of your concern.
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    #9

    May 31, 2009, 11:55 AM
    I think you should stop being so harsh when people ask for advice mr perfect are you yes whatever
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    May 31, 2009, 01:55 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by kctiger View Post
    It souunds like your legs open at the drop of a hat. Seriously.

    He got what he wanted after 8 years in one night. Done deal. Learn from your mistake and let this go, there are NO feelings involved, clearly.
    Winner, Winner chicken dinner. Greatest post I've read all day.
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    May 31, 2009, 01:56 PM

    Was your prior relationship with this person mostly physical? I think you might have look forward to getting back together with your old flame, however it looks like he just wanted a one-night stand.
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    #12

    May 31, 2009, 02:28 PM

    Sounds like you've been laid and played, but you asked for it. This guy is not a winner and you should think twice before you give it up again, especially to someone you have not seen in 8 years.
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    May 31, 2009, 04:42 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by xbox360 View Post
    i think you should stop being so harsh when people ask for advice mr perfect are you yes whatever
    Well everyone is pilling on you,no he's not perfect no one is perfect but if you come to this web site with the post you have given your going to get some tough answers.would you rather we sugar coat it and tell you,he's probably just busy and waiting for time to pass before he calls you.if that's what you want to hear sorry.
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    May 31, 2009, 05:10 PM
    Originally Posted by xbox360
    What do you guys think? I'm 27 now, and sick of one night stands etc,
    Stop having them!
    Originally Posted by xbox360
    I deleted his number.
    Good move.
    Originally Posted by xbox360
    Have I been played?
    No, you both wanted sex remember.
    Originally Posted by xbox360
    Does it sound like he likes me,
    He did when you were giving him sex.
    Originally Posted by xbox360
    Or wouldn't he text by now if he did?
    He will let you know when he wants more sex.
    Originally Posted by xbox360
    whats the problem with having sex when you both fancy each other
    It can lead to a one night stand. That's the problem.
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    #15

    May 31, 2009, 05:32 PM

    Don't worry, I'm sure he'll call you again, the next time he's horny.

    Heck, why not? You're a sure thing.

    Good luck.
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    Jun 1, 2009, 12:21 AM
    Xbox360;1767447,
    Threads merged, and edited, for text speak, grammar, and punctuation for clearer understanding.
    Anyway we met up as he asked to come to my house, so I agreed and we soon ended up having sex,
    Didn't even cost dinner,movie yea he'll be calling
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    #17

    Jun 1, 2009, 07:28 AM

    Ways to avoid a one night stand

    1. Don't meet people over Facebook, I mean seriously?
    2. Don't have a first "date" at your house


    The third biggest rule, JUST SAY NO
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    #18

    Jun 1, 2009, 10:42 AM

    Seems like everyone has given some pretty sound advice here as it's clear to all of us what happened.

    It's easy to think thigs are going to suddenly be great again because the physical part fools you into thinking it's more. But most of your repsonses here are from guys. So they know what they're talking about. Guys that have lived, loved, and even been hurt. Real people. Pay attention to what they're all telling you.

    This guy didn't have to invest any effort into jumping in the sack with you. He's no longer interested because he got what he wanted, now he's done. Good that you deleted his number; now time to move on and chalk it up as experience.

    If you want to know how busy he is, text him and tell him you want to have sex again. I'm willing to bet his schedule will suddenly free up.
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    #19

    Jun 1, 2009, 05:34 PM
    You were used for sex. Enough said
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    #20

    Jun 1, 2009, 08:38 PM
    Leave the horny bastard alone he can hire a prostitute if he's hungry for sex and 16+26 is not a combination and now its just as bad your that little teenager again except he is way older and definitely not smarter RUN FAST AND FAR AND LEAVE THE PHONE IF NECCISARY if I was you I would not be waiting by the phone

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