[armywifew2]

I live in Washington state. My husband is active us military and we have been together almost 2 years. My first son is not his. We got together when my son was a little over a month. He now would like to adopt my son.
When I got pregnant it was with a guy I didn't even know. I was in college at a campus party hooked up with this guy and that was the end of it. I did contact him and told him and he didn't want anything to do with the situation haven't heard from him since. I wasn't even 100 percent sure that e was the father. We did a paternity test to find out if it was another guy and he wasn't the father. Now that we have decided to let my husband adopt my son I was told that even though he isn't on the birth certificate and he has never seen him or contacted me when I have attempted to contact him, he still has to sign over his rights. I'm a little confused because he was never determined the father and he is not on the birth certificate. I know nothing about him other than he is a bum w no job or car and he smokes a lot of weed and drinks a lot. I don't want my son to see that lifestyle. Is there any way that I can get around this in case the, to put it nicely, "sperm donor" should grow a conciousw after a brain?

Thanks

[ScottGem]

Sorry, but the law requires that a bio parent consciously relinquish his rights to clear the way for an adoption. Otherwise the bio parent may be able to show up and overturn the adoption so you want to do this too.

You need an attorney to prepare the adoption, they will help you either find the bio father or show you how to show a good faith effort to find him.

It sounds like he will not object to relinquishing his rights.

[Fr_Chuck]

Your son does not have to contract him your attorney does. You locate him, file court papers to order a DNA test and prove he is legally the father, then he gets the choice of paying child support or signing over rights to adopt.

That is how it works.