[rocky86]

I saw one girl at my work place. I found her very sweet and innocent. So I start talking to her but not too much. We became good friends I gave her few choclates. One fine day I gave her a gift as well she feel very happy but she accepted the gift after request so many times. At this point in time I was completely in love with her. So with courage one day I gave her a orange rose and next day I wrote on a piece of paper that she is most beautiful gir and looks like an angel. She read it and smiled a lot. In return, few days back she also wrote me on a piece of paper that she will never forget me. I felt most happiest person when I read that, but the very next day I found her sitting with a guy in restaurant and I asked her in the evening that who was he? She said, he is his boy friend. That was the day I cried a lot in my life. Now everything seems me to be still and I don't even like to talk to anyone, I don't know whether I will come out of this tragedy in life. After that day I talk to her that I was having feelings for her in my heart and she said sorry she could have told me earlier that she has a boy friend. But I clearly express her how much I love her.now she told me to please be mine friend and I said her OK... but at the bottom of my heart I still feel I love her more than anybody in my life. At the same time I also want her to come in my life.sometimes I become so possesive that I ask her directly where was she, why she is not picking my phone and the like things.I don't want to hurt her I only want her to be back in my life, and sometimes I feel myself forcing her to love me and the thing is she clearly told me that she don't have any feeling for me.so what should I do?

[Romefalls19]

Denied! She has a boyfriend. Endgame right there and I didn't even read your post

[I wish]

I know how you feel, because I was in a very similar situation. So that people don't have to repeat their advice, here's the link to my thread: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...re-319894.html

Here's a summary of their thoughts. She has a boyfriend, so she's clearly off limits. I know that you have very deep feelings for her, but the fact that she's sticking with her boyfriend, it should tell you that she doesn't feel the same way. You can't force someone to feel the same way about you. What you can do is accept her feelings. Accept that she just wants to be friends. If you can't handle being friends, you're going to have take more extreme measures and ignore her. If you really want her to be part of your life one day, then you have to get over her first. Until you can see things objectively, a friendship is out of the question, because you will always have false hope and interpret all her actions. That's not healthy at all.

Just yourself time to move on. I had the hardest time getting over the girl too. It took months, but it's finally working. Time is the key, but unless we have the patience to wait it out, we will keep on suffering.