Is it unreasonable for me to ask my friend to not hang out with my ex-boyfriend?
My ex-boyfriend broke up with me about a week ago... on my birthday AND on the same weekend as my graduation from law school. I have had a pretty hard time dealing with it because I was pretty certain we would end up together, but I'm hanging in there.
One of my closest girlfriends at law school considered herself my best friend and my boyfriend's best friend (even though he didn't feel the same way about her). We all spent a lot of time together, mainly because I felt sorry for her as she had just gotten out of an 11-year relationship and was very lonely. Now, she's there for me, but I also know she intends to maintain a friendship with my ex. That is fine with me, but I do not like the thought of the two of them hanging out 1 on 1. I trust them both, and I know I probably have nothing to worry about, but I don't even want the thought of the two of them hooking up to cross my mind. For this reason (and also because when I was dating my ex, he mentioned that he felt uncomfortable around her alone), I asked my friend if, out of respect for me, she would mind not spending time alone with my ex-boyfriend. Her response was that she'd really like to find out why he dumped me, and if he gives her a good reason, then maybe she can forgive him. Otherwise, she's not sure she'll still want to be friends with him.
I don't think she would ever consciously hurt me, and I really trust him completely on this subject, but you know how sometimes one thing can lead to another. Am I being unreasonable here?
Thank you!!
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