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    ladygaga007 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    May 25, 2009, 09:50 AM
    My boyfriend won't talk to me
    Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a half and he won't talk to me about our relationship, his feelings etc.
    We haven't had sex in over 6months and I've tried to talk to him and he just clams up I don't know what to do. I'm always doing the running around going to his house doing everythin for him I just want him to love me and put as much into our relationship as I do. Anyone got any ideas

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    I wish Posts: 5,296, Reputation: 2030
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    May 25, 2009, 09:57 AM

    Well if he's not willing to put any effort, why are you sticking around? Why torture yourself like this? One-way relationships don't work.

    If he's too scared to talk about his feelings, then he's probably too scared to break up with you too. Do both of yourselves a favor and dump him. Find someone else who will put the mutual effort that you deserve.
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    E12191G Posts: 59, Reputation: 10
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    May 25, 2009, 01:50 PM

    Fisrt off, I agree with the other person, one-way relationships Don't work. You may want the relationship with him more then he wants it with you, if he still wants to be with you. He may just not want to hurt you and leave you and is trying to give you this big sign saying he doesn't want to be with you. By not cooperating in a relationship, that means the person isn't serious about making it work. Other wise communication would be there with you two.
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    May 25, 2009, 01:52 PM

    If he's not putting any effort or passion into your relationship don't you think its dull or maybe not worth it?
    There doesn't seem to be any communication or connection going on here so it sounds like a good time to break it off and move on.
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    May 25, 2009, 01:59 PM

    I dated someone like that in high school. He went to a different school. I stopped calling when I realized I was the only one that was putting in effort. The relationship dissolved, and it was for the best.
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    May 25, 2009, 09:50 PM

    I agree with the previous posters. The guy is not worth your time. He doesn't sound like a good boyfriend. If he was, then he would be giving you more care and attention. I think you should let him go. I understand to let him go is hard because you don't know if he'll come back. Well, if it was meant to be, he would come back. Some examples of this is on this board where some girl or guy breaks up with their girlfriend or boyfriend and then that person who was dumped is here on this board trying to figure out how to get the other person back and how to make it work. Therefore, if he cares enough and is slightly capable of being a below decent boyfriend, he will try his best to get you back. It takes two to make a relationship work.
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    liz28 Posts: 4,662, Reputation: 1034
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    May 26, 2009, 01:10 AM

    Had to spread the rep I wish but your dead right.

    A relationship takes 2 to work not one so your putting in all the work while is putting in none. If this was a job he would have gotten the boot already.

    Communication done broke down. You try to work out your problems through talking and guess what? Your concerns fell on the deaf ears but he still didn't change after that because he doesn't care.

    The thing that bothers me the most is that through it all you still do everything for him--why? Do you think this would change things or make him love you more? What are the reasons?

    The questions is how much longer are you going continue on this this? This relationship isn't a relationship at all. You do bad by yourself with yourself.

    Also, you stated the two of you have been together for 1 year and 1/2 so I must ask have he always been this way?
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