[tinabinion770]

My husband can't get hard sometimes he is all over me then others he can't even get hard... I think he's cheating.. what do u think?

[J_9]

i think hes cheating..what do u think?

I think you are being too harsh.

Does he have any medical conditions? Take any medications? How old is he? Do you pressure him?

If this is the only tidbit of info you can give, we can't make an educated answer. We need details.

[artlady]

Here is a small list of reason for erectile dysfunction.
If you trust your husband ,you should be thinking that this is a physical problem and not a fidelity problem.
1. Diabetes mellitus
2. Hypertension (high blood pressure)
3. Atherosclerosis
4. Renal (kidney) failure
5. Heart disease
6. Neurological disorders - multiple sclerosis, stroke, paraplegia, spinal cord lesions, Parkinsonism, etc.
7. Injuries - sudden - e.g. pelvic and perineal
8. Injuries - gradual - as in bicycle-riders etc.
9. Surgery-operations on bowel, rectum, bladder, rectroperitoneum, spine, urethra, prostate etc.
10. Local e.g. Peyronie's disease
11. Medication e.g. drugs administered for duodenal ulcer, hypertension, mental disease etc.

[tinabinion770]

He doesn't take any meds but vitamins he is 32 and he start but then just loses the feeling... He is a very healthly man but I'm very concerned

[J_9]

Is he concerned? Have you talked to him about this?

[tinabinion770]

Yes but he thinks I'm giving him something to make him lose the feeling not to cheat but what the

[J_9]

Sounds like you may be stressing him out too much about this?

[tinabinion770]

He gets this crazy smile in his eye when we r trying to get him hard but cant... Could he be cheating or just have no interest in me anymore we have 3 kids..? /

[J_9]

He could have health issues. Get him to the doctor before you start accusing him.

[tinabinion770]

But could it be something other then medical??

[J_9]

But could it be something other then medical?????

It could be, but why put the cart before the horse? Get him checked out before you accuse him of cheating and wind up in divorce court.

[tinabinion770]

We always fight and when he wants he gets it but when I what it or need it he gets it... he only wants it when I'm drunk and don't remember it...

[Nestorian]

My husband can't get hard sometimes he is all over me then others he can't even get hard...i think hes cheating..what do u think?

Maybe it too much porn, I know that's happened to me be for, that stuff is bad for the libedo.

[J_9]

he only wants it when im drunk and dont remember it....

Then stop getting drunk. You have 3 kids to worry about :eek:. Sounds as though there are other problems besides him not keeping an erection.

[bronzebabe]

You want to know WHAT it is. It Could be a million things. Tell him you are NOT giving him anything, (unless you are), and have him see the doctor. Then, you can both rule out any kind of physical issue.
Second, you have three kids, and he is working full time, I am assuming. He IS stressed.
Is he cheating? No one here knows that. He might be, or he might not be. Truth is, he is the Only on that knows that.
A stress-free environment might help. Can you get some alone time with him? That Could help.