[ilovelife2009]

My husband has a child from his first marriage and in order to move on with our lives he must sign over his parental right. He don't see the child. She is six years old now and the child don't have a relationship with him. She don't even know he exists. Is this the right thing to do?

[nikosmom]

He cannot just sign over his rights. Why do you feel that he must sign over his rights?

Unless there is someone else who will be adopting the child, your husband cannot abandon his parental obligations.

Fact is, visitation is a separate issue. Your husband is responsible for arranging to see his daughter. If the child's mother is making it difficult then he can petition the court to set up visitation guidelines.

[ScottGem]

First, please don't type in all caps. Second, this issue is covered in hundreds of previous threads in this forum. A few minutes of browsing would have told you that the courts will not let him relinquish his rights.

If he has no relationship with the child and the child doesn't know him, that is partially HIS fault for not being a father to that child. Maybe the right answer is for him to step up and be that father.

[drea46750]

Is it that you want him to sign over his rights? Why can't his child be apart of your lives. I wouldn't want to move on with a man who doesn't want a relationship with his child or would even consider signing over his rights. That's just my opinion.

[JudyKayTee]

He wants to move on with his life? Or your lives? And that involves walking out on his child?

And you are in love with this person?

[mihaelah]

Or maybe, he doesn't want to pay child support realizing that there are 6 years of back-pay too.