Perhaps the fact that you lied, is the answer you are looking for.
What does age have to do with it, unless you are not mature enough to take responsibility for your emotions/actions and thus still need to learn who you really are...
Perhaps you should ask yourself, why did I tell him something other than the truth?
"im so scared that once he finds out he will leave me and I will proably go crazy. He is so good to me i can talk to him about anything and he understands"-You
Does he? Perhaps you would like to explian why he would not understand this situation?? Yet he'd understand countless others... Maybe you have been lying to not only him, but also yourself, No? That statement seems to imply such things, and I advise you to find your self, as you must make yourself happy, he can not do that for you, that woud be a misconception.
"i don't think no one else will ever compare with him"-You
You may consider thinking about this one. Open your mind to the truth of the matter. What you say here is suggesting that you have a cognitive deficency. Not to worry, it sounds worse than it is. A Cognitive Deficency is when a person ignores important factors within a given situation. Like selective hearing, you block out things that are not what you what to focus on.
Forexample: In this, your, situation you see him as "the only one for you". This is cutting out any possible future with any other man. This can lead to many issues and even self blaming or even blaming others; like me, for trying to anger you, or upset you, when all I'm doing is in fact informing you of you ability to think and be aware in respects to your cognitive capabilities.
So, you have a kind of tunnel vision where you can only see so much of the picture when there is so much more to the situation. This means you may overrate the external factors in your life, like this man. He may be wonderful, but he is not the only one, not to your knowledge at least.
Loosen up, so that should he be upset enough to leave you when you tell him the truth, then you can handle it and accept it with out tearing yourself apart. Odd I know. But it's true, and may just help you.
IF he listens well now, then trust him to listen when you tell him the truth. Find a time and place to be alone with him, not in bed! but where you can sit and talk alone and be focused on the matter at hand. He may not care at all, but I'm sure he will be a little upset that you lied. If he really does love you, then I'm sure he'll get over it. I do find it odd that he doesn't know your age, which once again brings me back to why are you so afraid?
It's your life, and now it's time to step up and accept the responsibility for it. I suggest you learn to love, forgive, respect, know, and ultimately be yourself. As I've said before, "How can you know your soul mate, if you don't know your self?"
Peace and kindness be with you
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