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Rayy123 · May 9, 2009, 03:44 AM

Hey, my boyfriend broke up with me last week because since he left school we barely got to see eachother.. we live about half an hour away from eachother and i told him that during the week he can call me so we have better contact than just on IM. But he said he hates talking on phones so we couldnt do that :/
Then at the weekends whenever i wanted to spend time with him he was always busy.. so altogther we didnt see eachother for a month. He broke up with me for those reasons but he says he still likes me and that its just so hard, which i do agree with. Im really down because i keep thinking about what we had and all the good times we spent together, everything is just not the same anymore and i really want him back. I dont know what to do and i feel really alone :( please help.

roxypox · May 9, 2009, 03:59 AM

I'm sorry to say, but I think he might have used that as an excuse. Half an hour? That's not much!

I sympathies with the fact that you miss him and want him back. Its only been a week and these things takes time. Its normal to feel that you want him back and that you feel lonely, its all still really fresh.

I'm the type of person who thinks its okay to allow yourself some grieving time, but not too much of it. Afterwards, you need to find away to get back on your feet!

What is your social life like? Do you have some good friends you can lean on? Friends can be great in times like this. Try to spend time with them, and don't stay too much on your own. Maybe you have a close friend or two that you can talk to? Talk about it with her/them and then focus on doing day to day stuff, try to have fun... etc.

I hope this was of some help!

Best of luck,
Roxy

talaniman · May 9, 2009, 04:16 AM

When your thinking of the good times, don't forget the weekends he was to busy, to make time for you.

Rayy123 · May 9, 2009, 08:45 AM

Thanks for the advice roxypox.. yeah I have some close friends that I've spoken to about it but they just tell me he's not worth it, which doesn't make me feel much better haha. But I do realise that I can't keep dwelling on the past.. I've been through breakups before but this one just seemed harder even though it didn't last as long as some of the others.. and yeah talaniman your so right (:

none12345 · May 9, 2009, 09:11 AM

You still want him back after he doesn't want to spend any time with you? You weren't important enough for him to give you some time out of life. No contact would help you feel better slowly and over time you won't be sad anymore. Try to go out more with your friends and spend time with family and keep yourself busy.

roxypox · May 10, 2009, 09:28 AM

Well sometimes we need the people close to us to be dumpsters, lol, that sounds a bit wiered, but sometimes we need people to just listen when we are in pain, and just kind of empty it out and if they just listen that might help loads... and they are right, he doesn't seem to be worth the pain and the tears and the heart ache, but that doesn't change that the pain is there. Because it is.

Are you close with your mother? Or an older sister perhaps... they might be helpful in a situation like this, I'm not that close with my mom, but I have an aunt I can talk to in situations like this.