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Fechi · May 5, 2009, 04:03 PM

My girl is scared of being with me because I hurt her in the past saying some bad things I shouldt have said because she broke up with me because we fought once in a while.

We were having the best day ever and the next day she was all like "i had enough" and broke up with me, because we started a silly fight about jealousy, and yeah, I said it all was a lie and she was a monster because she could do such a thing and that it all felt fake and I sealed it with "go to hell"

After that I did everything I could to get her back she said its not the same and yeah, I sang for her which is very big for me, I wrote her poems and saying I was really sorry still she won't be with me, because its not the same and she is scared and she don't trust me she says...

What do I do?

Fr_Chuck · May 5, 2009, 04:05 PM

You can't take back what you said, she may be worried that this is how you really feel or may turn back like that anytime you are mad.

One word in anger offsets 1000's of good ideas.

So you can try but if not, you have to learn from it and move on

Alty · May 5, 2009, 04:23 PM

You move on.

This relationship is over, she's had enough.

Fechi · May 5, 2009, 04:27 PM

She says she still want to be friends... but not together, how shall I respond?

Alty · May 5, 2009, 04:29 PM

Originally Posted by Fechi

she says she still want to be friends... but not together, how shall i respond?

Tell her that you aren't ready for that, it will only give you hope.

It's time to go to no contact, get over her and move on.

You need to be on your own for a while, without her in your life.

Fechi · May 5, 2009, 04:30 PM

She says she loves me so so so much... and its not the same... I really do want to be with her, and she says she wishes she would trust me and stuff...

Fechi · May 5, 2009, 04:31 PM

But I don't want to get over her I want to keep her close... just talk to her... because I love her so much >.<

Alty · May 5, 2009, 04:34 PM

Well then, be prepared to learn the hard way.

Good luck.

liz28 · May 5, 2009, 04:43 PM

If you love her so much why do you say mean things to her that will hurt her feelings?

Correct me if I'm wrong but people don't do that when they care for someone. Only an immature person that can't control their mouth because they let their anger get the best of them does this.

Work on watching what you say to people because you might say the wrong thing to a future girlfriend and things can turn ungly.

I am surprise she is still talking to you because I wouldn't.

Fechi · May 5, 2009, 04:47 PM

Yeah rub it in I'm a terrible person...

Alty · May 5, 2009, 04:53 PM

Originally Posted by Fechi

yeah rub it in im a terrible person...

You admitted that you weren't nice to her, that is terrible.

The question is, how many chances is she supposed to give you before she says "Enough, I'm done!" ?

liz28 · May 5, 2009, 04:59 PM

Originally Posted by Fechi

yeah rub it in im a terrible person...

I want you to realize that you let your anger get the best of you and you have to learn to control what you say to people and the woman of your life.

Your girlfriend might love you but not your ways. And saying the things that you do to her can you blame her?

Fechi · May 5, 2009, 05:03 PM

I'm sorry... I never meant to hurt her... she meant the world to me, and if I could go back in time I wouldt said anything of this, I have an anger problem and yeah I'm sorry... I just thought I told her what was on my mind opening up to her... but... I'm sorry...

Alty · May 5, 2009, 05:06 PM

Originally Posted by Fechi

im sorry... i never ment to hurt her... she ment the world to me, and if i could go back in time i wouldt said anything of this, i have an anger problem and yeah im sorry... i just thought i told her what was on my mind opening up to her... but... im sorry...

It seems like the "I'm sorry's" aren't working anymore.

It's over, you just don't want it to be, but that doesn't mean it isn't.

liz28 · May 5, 2009, 05:10 PM

How old are you?

Fechi · May 5, 2009, 05:22 PM

18

liz28 · May 5, 2009, 05:30 PM

What makes you mad? If your girlfriend was with you right now what does she have to do or say to make you upset? Also are you drinking when you say these things?

Fechi · May 5, 2009, 05:42 PM

well I never drink, me and my girlriend can't stand it =) and things that makes me upset its what's turns into arguments not mad, I have nothing to be mad off... its just stuff like she spending time on her own, talking to other guyes and such, and we argue over that like can't u talk to me instead of play a game at the computer and she says she can do both... and yeah I don't get the closeness I want... so yeah that's one example...

Fechi · May 5, 2009, 05:46 PM

And I have only said 1 time thoes bad things I never ever say anything bad like call her names or such other than when she broke up with me

SweetPea95 · Dec 2, 2012, 11:14 PM

I had a hard time trusting my boyfriend for the second time. We were never going out but we were very close for about 6 months, I finally asked him at and he said yes. Every day he told me he loved me during those 6 months. A week later he dumps me and said he doesn't love me no more. 2 months ago (from present) he asked me. Back of my head every day sometimes I ask if he really wants to go thro with it. Answers that people have given you are true. You can't take back what you said. Big or small things, they all count equally. She is probably afraid of going through the same thing again and doesn't want to deal with the outcomes again.