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    May 2, 2009, 10:44 AM
    Is it One Sided Love or a Great Friendship
    I know this girl as a friend since the past 19 months.. also my colleague in office.. she is a very sweet friend... know all about her.. her life.. her BF and how happy she is with him.. nice Guy.. inspite of knowing all this... still I feel like I have fallen in love with her.. love to be with her.. listen to her.. speak to her.. the worst part... not physically attracted.. its emotional... affecting me personally and professionally... and I also know after a year she is not going to be here.. she will marry and go far away.. leave office.. even the city...

    Not able 2 understand.. shud I enjoy this moments with her... and risk getting 2 close to her.. or should I Get away.. really confused sometimes.. I think I love her... but also think and pray that the other guy does not ditch her.else she will break completely...

    Just I'm not able 2 decide... shud I b with her and njoy this moments.. which I find so beautiful... but doing that will get me 2 close.. and her departure will hurt me even more... or distance myself... What should I do?
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    May 2, 2009, 10:51 AM

    You should back away.

    I think you are bored or have a void that needs to be filled and this helps put something in you mind to fill that void. You are not in love with her, but rather the idea of being in love with her. It's great for you because you can experience the emotional side of love, without the work and time of an actual relationship. But to get over it, you have to treat it like real love and back away and find other things to do.
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    May 2, 2009, 11:01 AM
    You maybe you are rite.. maybe I'm not in love.. but as far as other things go.. I have a lot to do.. and its not like filling the void.. its that.. whether I back off or njoy the moments.. as getting 2 close might make it a lot more difficult for me.. and also I'm njoyin it so much rite now.. tht I don't feel like backin off
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    May 2, 2009, 12:42 PM

    Don't panic, just keep being her friend the same as always, but balance your life with other things besides her. I think your just having a hard time facing the fact she will be leaving soon, which is sad, but understandable.
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    May 2, 2009, 10:53 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    Don't panic, just keep being her friend the same as always, but balance your life with other things besides her. I think your just having a hard time facing the fact she will be leaving soon, which is sad, but understandable.

    Thanks a Lot for yr reply.. Maybe you are rite... I should Continue my beautiful frendshp with her but at the same Time conc on other great things as well... Its that the pain is that I'm going 2 lose her is killing me... its sad.. but as you said its fine... Thnx a ton... will try for sure to get Through this.. Thnx again for replying
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    May 3, 2009, 07:05 AM

    Please give me a break with this chat/text speak, as complete sentences and good spelling is a better way to communicate.
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    May 3, 2009, 07:07 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    Please give me a break with this chat/text speak, as complete sentences and good spelling is a better way to communicate.

    Really Really sorry for that.. seems like the SMS language has really taken its toll on me..
    But surely will take care in the near Future.
    Thanks a ton for your advice but

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