[Seth3388]

My girlfriend of 2.5 years split up with me about three weeks ago. I know it was for all the right reasons, but I miss her. I moved in with her two years ago with my two kids. She also has a child. The plan was for me to pay off my debt and then for us to save for a house. After about a year she felt trapped in her own home and wanted us to leave. I was able to convince her that are love was too strong and we needed to give this a chance. She agreed. For the next few months everything was wonderful. But then you slip back into the same routine and with the pressure of three kids you start to forget each other. I thought I noticed a problem with her in March.. Her sons father was doing heavy drugs and she didn't want her son going over to his house on his weekends. So we lost all our alone time(my kids go to their moms every other weekend) So I started asking her if everything was okay. She told me everything was fine.. So, to my dismay, I started to smother her. Where are you? Why didn't you respond to my text? Don't you want to spend time with me? ETC... She left for SC to see her sister for a week. Everything was fine, but the minute she left she wouldn't talk to me. I only received a message here and there. But they were different. When she finally got home it took two days for her to finally talk to me, and it only lasted minutes. She was done with me and wanted us out. She agreed to let us stay at her house until the end of the school year. But the next day she forced us out. She really turned evil on me and my children. Basically throwing us out on the street. We had to move in with my ex wife's family until the school year ends. I did so much for this girl. I relocated my family, waited on her, cleaned her house, took care of the yard, you name. I know I'm not the nicest person all the time, but to throw my kids out, blows me away. I even had a vasectomy for her. The worst part is her son's father is living with her again(the druggie) after only a week. And she turned so cold on me, I was only able to get some of our stuff out of her house.. She never liked my kids and I know this is for the best, why do I feel so bad? I even know I could never go back to her. I still think about her all the time. I can barely sleep, eat, I'm smoking full time again. How come I can't just let her go? I know she has let me go..

[sabrewolfe]

Why do you feel so bad? It's because you put so much effort into having a life with her and one day she she does a total 180 on you. It doesn't make sense with your heart or brain, hey, that is totally understandable. This chick has problems and will never know what a stable life is. There is no way you can expect to have one with her. Trust me bro, I've been through the same thing. After time you will realize it for what it was really worth. But, you did learn a huge life lesson in the process that can serve you well in future relationships. She sounds worthless to me, I wouldn't spend much time thinking on or missing her. She threw your children out for god sake! It's amazing when you think you met the right one in the beginning only to find out how wrong they are when you try to build a life with them. Don't worry bro, you will be better off and she will be nothing. Best wishes to you and your children.

[talaniman]

Its only been 3 weeks and all the wounds of your loss are still very fresh. It will take a lot of time to heal.