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story-love · Apr 29, 2009, 04:15 PM

Well I'm seeing this guy a few months, and were up for everything, he wants to have a full on 3 sum. Lately I've been finding girls atractive,(im not gay just curious) so I agreed, but in a 3 sum someone gets more left out ye? He wants to have it with his ex girlfriend, so I'm afraid I'm going to be left to the side haha while they go at it.Does anyone have experience in this?

Xrayman · Apr 29, 2009, 04:27 PM

MMM sounds more like it is for his pleasure rather than to satisfy your curiosity-I'd say watch this situation, YOU are going to be left out not just during the act, but I think forever once he gets a taste for her again...

Why did he break up with her?

I'd suggest a threesome with another guy (of your choosing-FIRST, then a girl of your choosing next) then see if he is still interested in doing the ex-gf with you...

I think you may discover his real intentions-sorry about that.

Fuzzball_Kara · Apr 29, 2009, 04:33 PM

Had to spread the rep but I agree with xrayman. I'd want to see the look on his face when you asked for a threesome with YOUR ex.

Synnen · Apr 29, 2009, 04:36 PM

Absolutely do not do this.

You will not have a boyfriend if you do.

tickle · Apr 29, 2009, 04:51 PM

Hi, synnen, I agree, but does she really need a fellow like this ! She is well rid of him.

Tick

Alty · Apr 29, 2009, 04:53 PM

The sum of three plus what? ;) Had to say it!

It's not a good idea. Obviously he's still attracted to his ex, this will end badly, and yes, you will be left out.

Break up with this jerk, it's time to move on.

story-love · Apr 29, 2009, 05:09 PM

All right thanks a lot guys :)

twinkiedooter · Apr 29, 2009, 05:17 PM

I'm begnning to think it's the ex-gf's idea and not his when you really think this thing through - otherwise why would she have anything to do with him?? Ditch the bum. You can do better than him anyway.

Xrayman · Apr 29, 2009, 07:19 PM

I have just switched on my "I-Smell-a-Rat-O-Meter" and it's off-scale, I really think he and the ex-gf are looking to hook-up "legitimately" while you are in bed with them.

My Creep-O-Meter is now off-scale-time to find another BF.

tickle · Apr 30, 2009, 02:19 AM

I think it's a case of he and his ex wanting to fulfill a fantasy they didn't have the nerve to do when attached. It makes sense that they feel they can now accomplish it this way, by having a 3-some. Yes, creepy, I think so too.

shazamataz · Apr 30, 2009, 05:08 AM

Ask him to have a threesome with your ex first. Bet he changes his mind.
I agree with everyone here in saying he is not worth your time.. that is just something you don't ask your girlfriend to do!

liz28 · Apr 30, 2009, 05:22 AM

It seems like you might be doing this for all the wrong reasons. You don't have to do anything you don't want to and always follow your instincts.

He wants a threesome just to sleep with his ex. I would never, I mean never ever have a threesome an ex.

So don't open this door and if he gets mad then hey your better off without him.

J_9 · Apr 30, 2009, 05:24 AM

Simply put...

This is wrong on so many levels.

smoothy · Apr 30, 2009, 05:56 AM

I've had several threesomes in my life with two women.

But with that said, none of them were ever seriously under consideration for marriage in my case. Thus some of the other issues that can come up never did.

kp2171 · Apr 30, 2009, 10:19 AM

So this is the same personal trainer that cannot reveal he is seeing you?

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...gs-344034.html

And the same guy that isn't getting you over the top?

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adult-...ms-344052.html

Tell him to forget about the threesome.

Tell him to get down on his knees and figure out how to please you.

You say he "knows what he is doing"... sure... I'm sure he is more experienced and might be getting you closer... but my experience is a woman might have to work hard to find what her needs are, and this is the time to explore for yourself...

Forget the threesome. If you want to date a girl, date a girl. Fine.

But the threesome is probably going to distract you... unless they both are focused on you... and I'm guessing he isn't going to be... you will have yet another experience that isn't quite up to what you deserve or need.

Ash123 · Apr 30, 2009, 11:57 AM

If you can't spell "3 Sum" you are probably not ready for a threesome.
(Sorry, couldn't resist.)

Anyway, let's look at the pros and the cons:

Pros:
You get to try something new.

Cons:
He gets to fool around with his ex
He gets to show he doesn't respect you
He gets off while you hope for the same
He knows you guys are not serious. You realize it AFTER
The ex doesn't like you
You are not bisexual and feel lost
You were just curious but you now have 2 exes to deal with
(him and her)
You get talked about behind our back for servicing both of them

It's your call, but the cons seem to be winning right now...

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nitelight198073 · Apr 30, 2009, 12:36 PM

I think it is a bad idea it will complicate things and it may stir up things between him and his ex

Fr_Chuck · Apr 30, 2009, 12:54 PM

Ask him why it has to be two women, two men and a women make three also.

So he would not object to having sex with another man for a threesome if he expects you to do the same.

??

Still wrong in too many ways, agreed.

Rich11111 · Apr 30, 2009, 01:14 PM

In my opinion threesomes should only ever be attempted if you are single, or have had an open relationship for a while and are comfortable with that lifestyle.
Wanting to involve his ex in this shows that he clearly still desires her at least on a sexual level.

smoothy · Apr 30, 2009, 04:38 PM

This would be hard enough for a couple assuming the third wheel DIDN'T have a relationship at any point with one party. THey almost have to be either near strangers or really, and I mean REALLY close friends. Anything in the middle is likely to blow up at some point. But like was mentioned above... tell him if he gets this you want a threesome with two guys and he has to actively participate with them as well.

Bet that slams on the brakes real fast.