[sandybeach23]

I have a 15 year old daughter, she is adopted, which I only mention because I need to be honest and say that she was born addicted to crack. We brought her home from the hospital at 2 days old, she was our baby the minute we laid eyes on her. She has had many issues alll of her life, none physically, she is absolutely beautiful but this girl is so violent and emotionally impaired that I actually fear for our oldest child's safety. Our daughter has been in a EI program (emotionally impaired) for all of her school years, sees a therapist, has had 2 stays in a physc ward to date. I use to be able to buff life for her, she wanted to be a brownie, I became a brownie leader, I have made friends for her and taken the kids to do fun things to give her friendships, room parent volunteer, but all the stuff I did in her younger years makes no difference now this kid has no friends, they all think she is a freak and scary, is loud, rude, aggressive, all of that said does not nearly describe her behavior. Is there any place I can go to find this child the help she needs before she becomes a mentally ill homeless adult in the very near future? I am so desperate, my home is a terrible place, it is like a physc ward here most of the time, the swearing & yelling, threats, hitting, the animals hear her voice & run to hide.
Help me, I feel no hope anymore. I am all used up as a parent, I need a program.

[Gemini54]

This is a really hard one. I hear your despair and pain. I can only imagine her despair and pain.

You need to speak to her therapist. If this person has been working with her for a while, they'll be able to recommend someone - perhaps a psychiatrist? They will know what her issues are and will, hopefully, be able to make a recommendation to a suitable person - one that is used to dealing with young people.

I'm suggesting a psychiatrist because it may be that your daughter needs to be medicated for a while to calm her down and balance her anger and moods.

She's a teenager at a cross roads (so called normal teenagers are bad enough), who is adopted, born addicted to crack and emotionally impaired - you can't be expected to deal with this without assistance.

If you can, ask the therapist or psych. If there are any support groups for parents of difficult children. Join one so that you can speak to other mothers that have been through or are going through a similar experience.

I wish you well and hope that things improve.