[ryman1989]

Okay, so my girlfriend broke up with me the other day... she says she wants to be single for a while and try and date other people. Here's the confusing part, the day before this comes up, she was going on and on about how I'm perfect for her and how she loves me so much and all that jazz. Any clues here, because I'm just lost. I love her to death, but this kind of grinds my gears a little bit.

[sabrewolfe]

Sounds like she's the one that's lost bro. Let her go and date other guys. She doesn't sound too dedicated to me.

[lighterrr]

Let her go, buy the time she discovers the grass is not greener on the other side she may come back running. Also you may find someone that takes your breath and she'll just become a distant memory.

[Nestorian]

"grinds my gears"- Peter Griffin? Hehe. Just playing bro. Trying to lighten the mood.

"...Let her go and date other guys. She doesn't sound too dedicated to me."-Saberwolf

Let her go... and date other guys, kind of sounds like you're telling the OP to date other guys. Haha.
No, I don't imagine she is too dedicated to you. Haha. Sorry, I just had to point out the comical asspect of what you said. Good points by the way. Haha.

Ok, are you two still young? If so, it's not that, "she isn't worth it." That's just what people say when they are upset, nothing wrong with that, except if you don't learn to let those feelings go. Then you develop a complex and feel anger for that person in an unhealthy way, I should know I'm trying to get over this very issue.
Any who, she may feel that you are perfect, except she doesn't have enough to compare you to so she needs to get out and meet more guys. Then maybe she will find either you, or another "perfect" guy to be with when she feels ready to "settle".

I agree that you should move on, and be not concerned with her choices, if she wants back, that's up to you to decide, but know that she may very well do this again. Acceptance is something's hard but necessarry.

May peace and kindness be with you.

[I wish]

She seems really confused about her feelings.

I know it seems like she dropped this on you out of nowhere. I think she stopped having feelings for a while now, but she wanted to give the relationship another chance. The day before breaking up, when she was telling you how much she loved you, it sounded like she was trying to convince herself that she loved you. Then she realized that she can't keep lying to herself and had to break if off.

Don't read too much into her timing anymore. The point is she broke it off. You need to respect her decision.

[ryman1989]

Definitely feels like 3 years of my life went down the drain now though

[Jake2008]

Look at it another way.

In three years you learned to love somebody. You have grown and matured, and learned what it takes to commit three years of your life to another person.

You have weathered emotional storms, arguments, upsets, and with all of the 'normal' things that go along with any relationship, you experienced far more good than bad. You learned how to be a man, and treat a woman well, in a committed relationship.

That, along with many more things like honesty and integrity, is not lost, or gone.

All of what you learned, is taken into the next relationship, and hopefully when you reflect on the last one, you will be an even better partner, in knowing that you possess more experience and insight.

It's all on the plus side from here on in.

[ryman1989]

Yea, I guess I hadn't really thought about it like that. Mucho thanks

[lighterrr]

yea, i guess i hadn't really thought about it like that. mucho thanks

Your just learning the game of life and relationships which are incredibly far from being simple. You got a lot of years ahead of you:)

[Whatever24]

She just wasn't your cup of tea :)

[ryman1989]

Your just learning the game of life and relationships which are incredibly far from being simple. You got a lot of years ahead of you:)

Yea, no kidding, I'm only 20

[ryman1989]

Agreed, I feel somewhat better now, thanks everybody