[nervey]

I have been a single mom for 10 years. I have four children my oldest is on her own now. I still have three at home two girls 12 and 17. And my son who is 15. They are amazing to me and I have loved every moment of being their mother. My concern is that we are a single income family and I do house cleaning on the side when I can, however I still have much trouble with finances. Also I don't have time to do everything myself all the time. My son has recently told me that he feels he is a burden on me and that maybe things would have been better if they were given up for adoption to someone who could have taken better care of them. This has left me very upset for weeks it seems my son is so angry at me. I also have RA, and that has me waking up in pain every morning, yet I get out of bed because I love my family and will not abandon my children like their father has. I refuse to take addicting Meds. So I don't know what to do. I can't hide the chalenges and sometimes I am grouchy. Well he feels unwanted and I feel like a failure.

[Meredith1978]

I understand how difficult hearing that might have been. I have no intention of telling you what you should or shouldn't do, but I can clarify a few things. One, every day the kids in my house try really hard to impress me, they all try to tell me things that show me how special they are. At the end of the day no matter what, they need to feel special and worthy. Everything you said made it sound like they were just a burden. If I got that after reading one paragraph... maybe they need to feel less like a burden.

I have no doubt you work that hard, sometimes when we are taking care of every day life and its weighing us down we forget they need to know we do what we do (not because we have to) but because we love them so much, and they are such a blessing we couldn't imagine it any other way.