[amwmommy]

I have a baby under the age of 6 months. Her father and I were not married and he left me early into the pregnancy. He contacted me about once a month to see how the pregnancy was going. Did not offer any financial help for Dr. bills and hospital bill. He was not at the hospital when she was born. He went the entire pregnancy questioning if the child was his. Which I think was a ploy to not look bad for leaving me. He went as far as harassing me about getting an amniocentesis during my pregnancy to prove he was the father. Once the baby was born he had no intention on getting a paternity test. All of a sudden it wasn't an issue anymore. The baby does not have his last name. I allowed him to see her whenever he wanted. At the age of 3 weeks he started harassing me about allowing him to take the baby for a few hours without me being present. I refused. It's been a constant battle. I allow him to see her whenever he wants yet it's not good enough for him. He does not give me any money. He goes to the store once a month and spends less the $100 on items that she doesn't even need. I appreciate the gesture but he could call me to see what she needs. I guess he thinks this is his way of taking care of her. I allowed him to take her to church to meet his family for two hours. Now all he wants to do is argue with me about why he can't take her without me being present. That's really not the issue anymore since she is getting older. I told him during the week I did not want to interfere with her nightly schedule and routine. So, if he and his other children wanted to see her during the week they could come over to my place to visit with her whenever they wanted to. It's never good enough for him. I filed child support enforcement against him because he has threatened on two occasions to give up his rights to her because he can't have his way. Once he got served the papers he started calling all the time and wanting to see her. I guess to make him look better in court. He threatens me all the time about fighting me in court for 50/50 custody. Not just joint custody where we share the decision making but living with me 50% of the time and living with him 50% of the time. Keep in mind she is less then 6 months old, he left me when I was pregnant, and has had nothing to do with her except spur of the moment visits few and far between. He doesn't think he will have to pay me much child support because he is the "primary parent" of 3 other kids. Those children live with him 50% of the time and with their mom 50% of the time. I agree with that arrangement because they were married for 20+ years and the youngest was 9 when they divorced. This is a totally different situation. He wants me to put in writing a schedule for him and why I won't let him see her. I told him that I cannot commit to a schedule because it all depends on the baby and how she is doing. I also clarified that I NEVER told him he couldn't see his daughter. He can see her every day if he wants to but it will have to be on my terms. I verbally told him the two weeks he has his other kids he can take her to church with them on those Sundays. Not only will she have the opportunity to visit with her dad, sister, and brothers but she will get to spend time with her extended family (aunts, uncles, grandmother, cousins). Him and I get along fine when we are around each other. When he comes over to visit her I go in another room to give them time alone with each other. He is a police officer so he tries to bully me and scare me about court. I guess what I want to know is:
If he takes me to court for visitation, what can I expect a judge to grant him with an infant less then 6 months old?
Am I wrong for wanting to keep to a schedule and routine at night and not wanting an interference like packing her up to go to his house to visit?
I'm terrified that he will get overnight visits with her. Do you think that will happen at such a young age?
Is there anyone who has had a similar situation? I can't find anything similar online.
Thank you for your help.

[GV70]

If he takes me to court for visitation, what can I expect a judge to grant him with an infant less then 6 months old?
Am I wrong for wanting to keep to a schedule and routine at night and not wanting an interference like packing her up to go to his house to visit?
I'm terrified that he will get overnight visits with her. Do you think that will happen at such a young age?
Is there anyone who has had a similar situation? I can't find anything similar online.
Thank you for your help.

If he takes you to the Court, he will get visitation but I am sure he will not be able to get overnight visits.Also he will have to pay child support which is more than $100

[ScottGem]

There is no telling what a judge will do. But you NEED to formalize this in court. Keep an exact journal of all his calls and everything that has happened. I think a judge is more likely to rule in your favor, but that's just a guess.