[mbrott]

Im 16, I lost my mom to breast cancer a week ago. Im completely lost. I can function but I fell like I'm falling apart and have no idea what to do. How do you cope when you have a 14 year old sister depending on you?

[BIGBOPPER]

I am sorry for your loss. It is very sad I know. I lost my older sister to Breast cancer about three years ago. I also lost my step daughter to a tragic accident at about the same time, and about two weeks before Christmas too. There is no set rule for grieving. Each person does it differently. My partner, my step daughter's mother, took two years to get over her loss. Try going to your school's counseling office, and see if they can get you some grief counseling. Also suggest that to your sister. That I think will be a tremendous help for you. Are you with your dad? Maybe suggest he seek out help. He might not, but that is his decision, that you cannot make for him.
I wish you the best of luck, take care.

[Maggie 3]

I am a christian and believe in the bible,
God's Word, that is what I look to for help
In all of my cares in this world. I would love
To tell you what I think on this if you would like
By what the bible says. Let me know.

Maggie 3

[JudyKayTee]

Not everyone is Christian and this is most definitely not the place for you to preach.

If you would like to help console this person, that is fine. Preaching, at least in my eyes, is not.

[88sunflower]

Not everyone is Christian and this is most definitely not the place for you to preach.

If you would like to help console this person, that is fine. Preaching, at least in my eyes, is not.

Maggie wasn't preaching. All that was stated was if you want to know what the bible says let me know... it was left at that.

I will keep you in my thoughts. I have also lost 2 brothers and its hard. I think of them everyday and its been years and years since they have passed. You will find a way. Its still fresh and painful. You don't need to forget your mother. Just remember your sibling may be feeling the same way. You can work through this together. Where is your dad.

[MsMewiththat]

Mbrott, I am so sorry that your mother passed on. I want to remind you that you have not lost her, only in the physical sense. What helps me to cope with loss, is to allow myself those days and moments when it hurts so bad I can't see straight. It hurts sometimes when you think of those that have gone, but do so and remember everything that she shared with you and the good times you had. Remember that she wouldn't want to be the source of pain for you and that she would want you to be happy and keep plugging on. I lost my brother and miss him everyday. I PRAY for him, for me and everyone that loved him and misses him so much. We talk about him and we laugh about the CRAZY things he used to do and say. Find things that you can keep close to you that either were your mother's or that your mother gave to you and take her with you in everything that you do. I wish you the very best journey. There will be days that will be worse than others. You will always miss her, but you will always have her in your heart. God Bless

[Lesko04]

I've also lost someone I loved more than I love myself. I was angry for along time. That anger didn't change a thing. He is still gone and I'm still here. I spend a lot of time looking at photos' telling his stories and I like the cemetery. We keep it fixed beautiful for all seasons. Talk about your loved one as often as you need to. Do something for yourself once in awhile that is just for you. Surround yourself with supportive people and keep looking for ways to make yourself happy and those who loved you proud. Someday something good will happen and it will all make sense, all the pain, and the tears might just stop falling... open up and let friendship and love in,, it will help

[tmc53]

We all cope differently... My son died 4 years ago. I had a 19 year old son in college and my son's daughter, then 3 living with my wife and I . Do you still have a dad or another adult to help share the burden. It's only been a short time and you are still hemmoraghing from this loss so to speak. Can you find another family member or close friend that you trust to help you through. Remember that there is no right or wrong way to grieve.

TMC 53
Upstate New York

[ZoeMarie]

I lost my mom when I was 11. She had multiple sclerosis and they found a tumor that was causing internal bleeding. Not the same situation there, but still lost my mom. My brother was 8 at the time. I think we depended a lot on each other and we're closer than I think most brothers and sister are because of it.

I can tell you that it helped me a lot to talk to the school counselor. It helped to write in a journal too. I was nowhere near over it until about 10 years after it happened. This is a short, but maybe it will give you another way of looking at things.

I used to pray every night that my mom could walk again. Every night. I'm not preaching by any means, this is just what I did when I was growing up because ever since my brother was born she couldn't walk. Anyway, I never told my mom that I prayed this every night. One night I had a dream that felt so real I still question if it was a dream. My mom looked absolutely beautiful, hair done, makeup, all dressed up. I had never seen her look so amazing. The only thing she said to me was that she could walk again and she just wanted me to know. I woke up and had tears just streaming down my face. I had NEVER had a single dream about her until that night, even though I thought about her all the time. I still do but now I don't think about it the same way. I think about the fact that the last vision I had of her she was so happy.