What to do

volkswagenfmhs · Apr 14, 2009, 05:26 PM

I am kind of at a crossroads in my life and want some other peoples opinions on what they would do in my situation. So I am 18, Im a freshman in college. I came to my school not expecting to like it and I love it, Ive met a lot of people and have had nothing but good things come from it. Before college I dated a girl all through high school and we talked about going together, but I kind of put it off and she ended up in Spain, but we were kind of waiting, I guess. I think my plan was just to wait it out and avoid confrontation, which was probably a bad idea. Anyway we kind of had a falling out last fall and were both with other people behind eachothers backs, and we ended up breaking it off. Then I kind of realized what I had or maybe I just like the security, but we kind of started things back up when were back for Xmas break. Since then we've been talking all the time and haven't been seeing other people, and I ended up getting accepted into a school in Spain too. I really like Europe and wanted to go there before college anyway, and I like to see new things and experience everything. Anyway back at school here I was really excited about going and it was not only because of my girl. I was going to pledge to a fraternity who wasn't able to take a pledge class in the end, so I pledge somewhere else spur of the moment and kind of regretted it in the end, but after everything we've done I love them to death. Now I have a month left of school, and Im really attached here and I still like it. On the other hand I could go to Europe and live there and start over and have a new experience, but I could always just study abroad. So I kind of feel like Im kind of going for this girl that I love still, but have a lot to work out with. Writing this, the answer seems obvious, but it's a real hard decision.

ROLCAM · Apr 15, 2009, 03:13 AM

If the answer is obvious!
Go with your head NOT with your heart.
If I were you, I keep close to HOME.
Good luck.

I wish · Apr 15, 2009, 01:41 PM

In this type of situation, you have to go with what your brain says and not your heart.

Heart is more of a spur of the moment or short term commitment.

Brain is for long term consequences.

layla36 · Apr 16, 2009, 09:41 AM

Originally Posted by I wish

In this type of situation, you have to go with what your brain says and not your heart.

Heart is more of a spur of the moment or short term commitment.

Brain is for long term consequences.

DO what you feel is best for you something that will make you happy

artlady · Apr 16, 2009, 09:47 AM

If you are going for the girl,I would say no don't do it.

But if you are going for the awesome opportunity to study in Spain I say,forget about the roots you have put down,as you can always up root and plant somewhere else.

You don't want to be 50 and sit back and say*gees,I had that chance for Europe and I blew it for a fraternity*.

My eldest sons father is from Spain and they are lovely friendly people and it would be a shame to pass up that chance.

Justwantfair · Apr 16, 2009, 09:54 AM

I think you are attached to your college now, but you will find in another year you could just as easily be just as attached at your new college in Spain.

It sounds like a wonderful opportunity and I think you should weigh both options as neither is the wrong choice, but as everyone has said weigh both options without weighing the girl factor. She will just be a bonus if you choose to expand your horizons.

Also, weigh the fact that you may regret passing up the opportunity in front of you, but you will likely not regret going, because you have experienced the college you are at. Life at this age is all about the experiences you gain.