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wizkid_8 · Apr 8, 2009, 10:50 AM

So here's the problem. I'm 16, she's 16 and a half and a junior while I'm a sophomore. We have been friends since kindergarten and we still are... but she has a boyfriend and I kind of like/love her. Her boyfriend is 19 and plays college basketball while I'm in school as a sophomore. I do everything I can to make myself the best I can be.. 4.77 GPA, varsity football, top of my class, tons of ap's... but that's it. I don't think I can compete with him.. how do I take her back...

I know her way more than he does... we hang out like every other day.. but she still likes him. Our relationship is weird though, she always flirts with me if there are people around or not, but it might just be friendly.. anyways.. her and my older sister are also friends (my sis is 18) and she has a sister my age as well. She has been going out with him for a year and to be honest, he doesn't seem like NBA material at ALL.. I mean the guy gets like 6 pts per game and that's giving him the benefit of the doubt that he actually plays... regardless... how do I appear like a better choice for her or,. I don't want to sound like a bad person but.. how do I separate them. I mean all of her friends are in my classes and they are all my friends but she always says if she wouldn't be with him, she would be with me.. how do I make that a reality..

Justwantfair · Apr 8, 2009, 11:03 AM

The fact is you can't. She has made her choice and she has a boyfriend and has had a boyfriend for the last year.

You can continue to like her, but you can not interfer or try get her back.

mudweiser · Apr 8, 2009, 11:10 AM

Justwantfair is right, she's involved with someone else so no touchy.

The best you can do is be a good friend to her, you never know how this relationship or when it will end.

MRS.S

nikosmom · Apr 8, 2009, 11:17 AM

As the others have said, you can't make her want you. If she did, she's had plenty of time to make that choice. The good news is that given the ages, it's unlikely that they will get married and live happily ever after. It may be tough now, but who knows, maybe you and her will connect somewhere down the road.

In the meantime, you cannot interfere in her current relationship because she will only resent you and more than likely discontinue being friends with you.

Just continue to be friends and keep doing well for yourself. You sound like you'll be a great catch and maybe she (or some other lucky girl) will realize the gold mine right before them. :)