[ibrown]

It's easier said than done.Everybody know when they feel a certain way it's hard just to move on like it's nothing.Yeah you can try your best but that don't mean you won't have relapse in what your really feeling.I really appreciate all the advice people have given me to try and help me move on from my ex boyfriend but right now I am having a moment and all that just went out the window for now.There are other things going on with me so that makes it worst because there's all these emotions going through my body.Do anyone have suggestions about this part of the process?:confused:

[Romefalls19]

I know what you are going through, you feel that because she isn't around you don't have anyone else to turn too. Been there, done that and conquered through it.

No, it's not easy to move on. define: break - Google Search If it was easy it would be called "ease up" but it's called break up. And by looking at the definition for "break" I can see why it's hard. It does get easier, with time and no contact. If you need someone to talk to, vent to us, we are a great support line and also friends help too.

[artlady]

I don't think anyone here would say that moving on is easy.
I think everyone would say just the opposite.

Its hard,it sucks and I suspect that many of the experts here have been through it and know how difficult it is.

That being said,there are also tools that make it easier.

Is NC easy? No,but the backlash of doing NC willy nilly is worse.
All the work and distance you put between yourself and your ex is wasted when you break NC.

Think of NC as the bitter medicine you had to take as a child in order to get better.It was awful,you hated it but in the end ,you got well.
Getting there was lousy but the result was for the best.

[kctiger]

It is probably the hardest thing emotionally I have ever done. It is easy to feel sorry for yourself and easy to constantly look at the negative, as it isn't a very big challenge to overcome things you have no desire to overcome.

I WISH it was easy. I am almost afraid to have children and watch them go through this process, as it plain out sucks! You will have your good days and bad days. I am on month 7 and still there are moments of weakness and sorrow... STILL. Like Rome said, you are NEVER alone, especially on this board. Good luck, and we are all here for you.

[talaniman]

Anyone who has been through the moving on process, KNOWS its not easy.

There are other things going on with me so that makes it worst because there's all these emotions going through my body.Do anyone have suggestions about this part of the process?:confused:

What kind of things?? Is being so close to his family an issue in this??

[I wish]

On the same wave length as everyone else... moving on is definitely not easy. What's easy is for people to tell you to move on because they are not experiencing your pain.

What's helpful is that many people in this forum have gone through the pain and can give you tips on how to face it. But ultimately, only you can conquor the pain. Once you get through it, you will be a stronger person.

Sounds like you are still in the early stages of the pain. I suggest you let yourself feel whatever you need to fell. Don't hold back your feelings. Let it out however you want. Once you've let it out, then you can accept and move forward.

[jmw0713]

Definitely the worst thing I've had to do! Breaking-up and moving on is not easy at all, but it is an essential learning experience in life that you can use to better yourself and your future relationships.

[ibrown]

Thank you and by the way I'm a female for the first person(not your fault you didn't kno)but I'm just now comn out of my denial stage we have been broken up almost a year.but we just officially had a conversation about the issue a couple of weeks ago and that's when I came to realize that damn we are not together.so yes I need all of the support I can get.I love him so much we were together for 4yrs and some months and he is the only guy that has ever met tha parents and family.im just prayn...