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loverbabe123456 · Mar 27, 2009, 02:27 PM

Hi I am new on here. I was wondering how you can get your ex back. He says that he loves me we dated for almost a year but I mean I have been waiting to hear those words forever.:D I love him. He told me that I can't give up on me and him because if I wish then it might come true what do you think he means by that. I mean I love him but I don't want to act like I need him which I do but I don't want to push him away. Please help every guy that I dated cheated on me. O and by the way he said that he does like this girl and if he had to choose he would walk away that hurts really bad please help me...
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Scleros · Mar 27, 2009, 03:10 PM

Originally Posted by loverbabe123456

...he says that he loves me ... i have been waiting to hear those words forever

Exactly. Keeps you around.

Originally Posted by loverbabe123456

...he told me that i can't give up on me and him bc if i wish then it might come true what do you think he means by that.

Classic B.S. to keep your hope alive and you around. If wishing makes things come true do yourself a favor and wish with all your might for a decent boyfriend that's invested in your relationship.

Originally Posted by loverbabe123456

...every guy that i dated cheated on me. o and by the way he said that he does like this girl and if he had to choose he would walk away

Wow, I'd say "Honey, start walking!" Seriously, why do you tolerate being told to your face that you're second fiddle? The quicker you lose him, the sooner you find a decent guy. Respect yourself.

lennore · Mar 27, 2009, 05:23 PM

Originally Posted by Scleros

Exactly. Keeps you around.

Classic B.S. to keep your hope alive and you around. If wishing makes things come true do yourself a favor and wish with all your might for a decent boyfriend that's invested in your relationship.

Wow, I'd say "Honey, start walking!" Seriously, why do you tolerate being told to your face that you're second fiddle? The quicker you lose him, the sooner you find a decent guy. Respect yourself.

I agree. Gosh ! I totally agree... myself concept is more than this. The term ''love'' is strong enough and used only if you mean it. I think you do.. but does he? I mean.. if he loved you he should put you first, And not even think of another person the way he does. Start running away. Love is something people should show and not only talk about.. but still.. if we only pay attention to words, then I tell you that '' I love you too'' ( I hope that its clear the fact that this is just an example) is this enough for you to move on with the rest of your life without him? Just.. find another one

nikosmom · Mar 27, 2009, 05:32 PM

Just why are you willing to accept being told that you'd be his second choice? He is your ex for a reason; do yourself a favor and let him stay that way. Check out this thread for tips on going No Contact so you can rid him from your life: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...qs-332732.html

Jake2008 · Mar 27, 2009, 05:48 PM

I don't know how many boyfriends you've had, but why do you pick those that hold you in such low regard.

I think that it is better to be alone, than to settle for another man who is treating you badly.

I think that there may be self esteem issues, or a lack of confidence that allows you to accept bad behaviour from other people. I'm not putting you down here, but maybe the issue isn't so much about how they treat you, but why you allow it in the first place.

JoeCanada76 · Mar 27, 2009, 05:53 PM

You should not want an ex back. Out with the old, in with the new.

babyshooter6 · Mar 29, 2009, 10:07 AM

Sound like to me that he's got you fooled. Doesn't it sound a little unfair if he wants you to hang on to him and to him you are just the second best? I don't know exactly what is going on but it sound like he pulled the "i love you" card to keep you hanging on and it worked. I would definitely say WALK AWAY!

talaniman · Mar 29, 2009, 03:54 PM

He is so full, of it and is only keeping you around for his own purposes. Don't take that kind of BS from a guy, and leave them all alone period, until they prove they are trustworthy.

rippedinside · Mar 29, 2009, 04:01 PM

I agree with everyone else. Move on!

It is obvious what he is doing with you and if you don't want to show him that "you need him", don't. Just move on, you'll realize you really don't need him.

cdedmundson · Mar 30, 2009, 10:13 AM

I see how everyone is telling you to move on, that seems to be the best course of action, yet it might not. If it is something you are willing to risk heartbreak for I say go for it. If knowing that you would be second best is something you can't get over, you should probably move on. I have seen couples break up and get back together better than ever. You just need to separate the truth from the bs, if he really loves you you would not be second best, but needing to be with you does seem probable if he is, in fact, in love with you. Don't write him off completely, just be cautious in how you approach reforming a relationship.

haleyisamazing1 · Mar 30, 2009, 10:18 AM

Babe, he's just messing with you! He's trying to keep you around so if the girl he likes ends up dumping him, then he'll just turn back to you. Dump him first, and go after the boy who will really love you.
_haley!

Emily36 · Apr 27, 2009, 08:23 AM

If he trully wants you back he would be talking major steps to get you back like dating you exclusively. I didn't hear one word about one step forward this guy has taken to back up his words with action. Walk away from this BS artist. Also, he is cruel and hurtful and shows no respect for your feelings yet you are allowing this when he talks about the other girl. I'm sure this is only a sample of how he treats you. Gather up your courage and dignity and walk, rather run away from this jerk. He doesn't deserve you.