[Constant]

Hi all, its been 1 month since my girlfriend and I decided to take a break. We haven't done NC because she told me it was nice for us to talk things through this time. I let her call me, but she always seems to call once a day. We talk now about anything and everything we can get to, from 5 minutes or to 30 minutes. It took a while for me to understand, but she was right when she said we had some kinks to work out before we moved on. She tells me she loves me everyday, sometimes she says she wishes I was there. (45min away at a different college) She even talks about what dog we will get when we are older. I am really hurt, I know I had things to work on and I know this time will do us good but I love her and don't want to waste time. I feel like she was wise in the fact that this would make our attitudes change again into feelings of butterflies, because after 2years things I guess were getting routine. I just am afraid she will find something new, maybe not better, that attracts her attention...
Any advice on what to say or what to do now? We have hung out 3 times since then, and it feels so natural, so good-- we both agree this is true love. It seems like she just wants time to focus on school and friends for awhile, until we are sure that our relationship won't turn into "routine" again. 2 months is my max, even with us talking and seeing each other. After that time it should be all of me, or none of me. Right? This isn't like other posts where people are trying to date other people, I think she just needed some time to breath and re-evaluate things, but not let me (her bestfriend) completely glow while she stepped back.
What do I do, to make my mind stop racing and being pessimistic?
I can't avoid her phone calls and say I love you back, but should I stop saying I miss you and look forward to seeing you again?
Should I not see her or talk about visiting?
Any adivce would be great...

[talaniman]

Sounds as if you have a long distance relationship. So here are some tips for you that may help define this thing better and you will know which way your going

Long Distance Relationship Advice | The Frisky

[I wish]

I'm not sure where the pessimism is coming from.

Seems like you guys are doing well. She wanted time to find herself, so you are respecting her and giving the space. She seems pretty happy talking to you as a regular friend. She still says affectionate things, showing that she really likes you. After two months or however much time she needs, you can bring up the question of "where do we stand?" By then, I'm sure her mind will be much clearer.

Be patient and continue to treat her well. Don't create problems when there are none.

[chuff]

A break is a break up. Break is womanise for break up. Learn to speak it because you are not getting what she's communicating.

She has set this up perfectly. She dumps you, but keeps hanging on, even telling you she loves you and plans your future... yet 45 minutes away she's telling everyone else she's single and available. If no one takes up her offer, she's got old stand by waiting 45 minutes away... not to far but just far enough not to cause any problems on her campus.

You mean nothing to her and she proved it by letting you go. Accept that it is over and move forward. No more calls, texts, emails or any other communication. It's done. It's over.

[liz28]

Things are getting confusing because the two of you are talking like you're a couple but your aren't. If the two of you love one another than why was a break needed when the two of are doing and sharing things that couples do?

This isn't space or even a break for that matter. I just hate for things to going the way their going then you just end out getting hurt in the end.