[Romeo18]

Ok well here's my situation. I've known this girl since the fourth grade but we didn't become friends until our freshman year in high school. Since then we've basically become best friends. We were always there for each other no matter was going on in life whether it be her friends her boyfriends family etc.

The thing that killed me was I was always secretly in love with her. We dated once in our junior year for about a week but then we both got caught drinking and basically had to separate. We remained friends again but I still loved her. Now things rekindled and we got back together and we've been together for the past five months. We both were deeply in love more than any other relationship we've ever been in, she told me I was the best thing that ever happened to her and so on, we even talked about our future together i.e kids our house etc. but in the last few weeks things got a little tense, we started to get into stupid arguments and got into stupid nothing fights.

In the end she finally tells me that she only sees me as a boyfriend and not her best friend any more and that she loves me but she "needs some space" and so it ended. We went about a week without talking and finally she makes contact and says she misses talking to me. So now we talk but it's not as much as we used to and it's obvious were back to being friends but not like before we were dating. Now she's giving me strange signs that makes me think she still might want to be with me. She tells me she misses me, she at four in the morning thanked me for always being there for her in the past, and she is still wearing the promise ring I gave her. At the same time we barely talk any more like we used to and we don't hang out ever. I still really love this girl and I want more than anything to be with her again but I don't know what to think or do? Any advice or insight on my situation would be greatly appreciated...

[talaniman]

I take it your parents, or hers, forbid you seeing each other??

[Romeo18]

Actually no, surprisingly enough even after me and her got caught I got a hold of her father and apologized for the whole thing and by doing so he respected me even more. Her parents always told her that I was the only guy she ever brought home that they actually liked and respected so it has nothing to do with her family

[Romeo18]

Oh and one last thing we went about a year before getting back together after the whole week long relationship during which she had a long lasting relationship with another guy (the same guy she thanked me for for being there for her when he was being a jerk to her)

[talaniman]

Just be straight, and honest about it, and go for it.

[none12345]

If you want to be more than friends with her than just let her know and if that's not what she wants than I suggest maybe you look at things differently. Basically she would be telling you that you're good enough to be my friend but not my boyfriend. Think about it man and Good Luck!

- none12345

[A mouse]

These situations are so difficult to deal with. The relationship becomes terribly akward depending on how much you did together. Try and maintain the friendship and ignore your feelings for her as best you can. It's the only way to keep together as friends.

-Mouse