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Mar 16, 2009, 04:56 PM
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can this really be love?
I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year, and during this time things haven't been that great. (I have previous posts, regarding my boyfriend not wanting to have sex with me)
He watches porn regularly, which I think is 'normal', and it doesn't concern me.
The thing that bothers me is that on FIVE different occasions, I have caught him trying to pick up other females over the internet. He's 24, and some of these females have been under 20.
1 female as 17, whom he met online before he started dating me. They hung out once, she gave him oral sex, and that was it. But then back in November they were messaging over the internet, and she was sending him nude-type photos. (He asked for specific ones that he had seen before).
Another female he told 'I miss your blowjobs. You gave me the best blow jobs ever.'
Another female he told 'I miss you using me to suck my *&^%.'
And last week, another 17 year old, sent him a message saying 'I'm curious about the possible breaking in half of me... ' Insinuating that there was a previous conversation.
Each time I confront him with these discoveries, he gets very mad and he says that he's just playing around, and that it's not really any of my business.
I need a guy's opinion. If you loved someone, would you do this?
This is all from a guy who rejects me daily, he doesn't want sex from me, and comes up with every excuse in the book. (side note: I am 5'2, 120lbs, attractive enough)
What gives? Why is he seeking attention elsewhere?:(
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Mar 16, 2009, 05:17 PM
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He gets angry because he's been busted.
You've been together for a year and you say things haven't been great--- what are you holding onto exactly?
I'm sure you're a knockout and you should be with someone that will appreciate you and want to be affectionate with YOU not with teens over the 'net. Don't waste your good years on a guy that doesn't value your feelings.
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Mar 16, 2009, 05:21 PM
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Dear I'm no guy but I can tell you from experience that, that man doesn't really love you. He just needs you to pick himself up when he screws up! My man did that to me and we were together for 3 years and then one day I walked in the basement to see him pining a girl against my couch! I was so sick to my stomach from this sight that I just grabed my purse and left which is what I think is best in these situations but its your choice I just don't want you to walk in on him someday after a long relationship you may have had with him and be crushed!!
I hope that you figure things out I really do. I am truly sorry I know it sucks, it really does!! :)
Sincerely
BRITANY
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Mar 17, 2009, 03:53 PM
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Why are you still there? Ain't that much love in the world to go through the misery, pain, and disrespect he is showing you.
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Mar 17, 2009, 04:07 PM
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 Originally Posted by lostnfound
I need a guy's opinion. If you loved someone, would you do this?
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Definitely NOT , and you shouldn't put up with it.
Dump his sorry A*s and find someone who respects you and you can lead a normal life with. Your missing out on some of the best years of your life , and you don't get them back!!
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Mar 17, 2009, 04:08 PM
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Hi! I can't believe you, why are you still with him? No one deserves to be treated like that, leave! He isn't worth your time. I'm sure you can do much, much, much better than that.
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Mar 17, 2009, 04:09 PM
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The thing that bothers me is that on FIVE different occasions
Ok, seriously.
I would have left after the FIRST time, get your act together.
He will regret it one day, and don't EVER take him back.
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Ultra Member
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Mar 17, 2009, 04:22 PM
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Leave this loser.
Enough said.
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Ultra Member
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Mar 17, 2009, 05:29 PM
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No this isn't love, at least not from his side of this relationship. I'm not a guy, but I do know that a behavior like this from a guy is not a good sign. You've all ready wasted a year on him... why wast more?
Time to leave him hun! He is treating you like dirt and he does not deserve you.
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Mar 17, 2009, 07:30 PM
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He watches porn regularly, which I think is 'normal', and it doesn't concern me.
Yes, it does. This all concerns you, or you wouldn't be here.
No, it is NOT love.
Don't waste another second.
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