[ds01]

My friend and I have been having sex for 3 weeks or so, and everything has been going great until the past two times we have had sex. She's not getting wet. When we talked about it I asked if I was hurting her and she said a little. But lube burned and was uncomfortable to her. What should I do?

[nikosmom]

Maybe she is not aroused. Some women need a lot of foreplay to get ready. I also notice you referred to her as your "friend" which implies no real relationship. This could also factor into the situation. Not feeling a true connection can have an effect on her arousal.

But if it's hurting her, stop. The lube may be burning if she already has small vaginal tears from having sex before she was aroused.

[letmetellu]

If you ae using any kind of lube make sure it is not a petroleum base lube if you are using a condom, the lube will weaken the condom.

[shyfoxie]

Try a hypoallergenic brand or a "sensitive" type water-based lube.
And make sure she's aroused enough. And ask right when you enter her how it feels for a bit.
My boyfriend and I's rule of thumb: if it hurts when it goes in, then I need a bit more foreplay, because there's no point having bad sex.

Original KY jelly is nice and gentle (I find), and doesn't mess with condoms

[Choux]

Stop having sex. Yours is not meant to be a sexual relationship at this time, guy.

You are friends. Remember, you don't have to have sex with every woman indiscriminately--many young girls are just not going to be passionate for you... or for that matter, have a well-developed sexual and passionate side to their personalilty. Many have sex for social reasons, not sexual need reasons.

Best wishes, :)

[shyfoxie]

I glossed over the part where he said friend completely (I assumed he meant girlfriend). So wait... she's young, not really super-hot for you specifically and you're having sex? Maybe she might be ready... just not for you. Some things just don't work out if something's missing.

[wotwotoldchap]

Assuming that you are both consenting adults then ignore the pious nonesense of "stop having sex!" She is a grown up and will let you know if she doesn't want to have sex. So you are having sex and up until now things have been grand. Look sex normally shouldn't need lubrication. Take your time together, enjoy the other parts of each others bodies and give each other time to heat up. It's not all about you, you know. It's about her too. Just be a sensative lover. Use your imagination. Kiss. Lots of kissing and touching is always good. Try oral sex. Ask her. Let her tell you what SHE wants.

If she says that she doesn't want sex then STOP. Otherwise, knock yourself out.

[IDKwhatIwant]

Lick, and spit.

Given you both don't have an STD and you brushed your teeth... spit can be used as a lube, and licking just eases the tension.

Just my opinion.
:D

[chrissymarie]

Use lubrication. Simple non heated or tingly or scented KY jelly will be just fine. Also try some extra foreplay if your doing any foreplay at all. Foreplay really really increases the sexual experience for a woman and you may find it satisfying too.