[AllAlone6981]

Hello, I'm to embarrassed to ask this to anyone I know.. and I think I'm going to die if I don't find out what's happening here!!
I haven't been sexual active in.. Well YEARS. The Love of My Life passed away over 3 years ago and I haven't felt like even meeting anyone, let alone sleeping with someone!
Now, all of a sudden, I fell like I need to have an orgasm ALL THE TIME! I Wake that way, in fact, I wake up all hours, having orgasms!
I've always had a healthy sex drive, (2xs a day wouldn't be enough some days! )
But since Tom passed, I haven't even had the urge to be pleasured..
But, now, I don't know what it is.. I feel like I'm in a constant pre~orgasm that never quite go's all the way OVER... I'm sure some of you know what I mean by that.. When I don't go over, at least before, when I was with someone, then I would just want it more and more and more.. lol.. you get the picture.
So Now, I'm STUCK in this Limbo. I have woke up before in such a state that there was NOTHING ELSE I Could do, other than help myself "over" and have an orgasm.. lol But IT KEEPS COMING BACK! I think it does subside the rest of the day if I do try to "finish it"... but I have never felt right about pleasuring myself, for myself. I just Never thought to do that because that was something I shared with Tom. I don't know.. Help PLEASE! I walk around on my tip toes all the time, READY To SCREAM!! I Don't Want to feel like this, ALONE! I mean its like a permanent HARK ON!! I CAN'T TAKE IT ANY LONGER! How do I make it STOP!!

[simoneaugie]

Develop a trust, a relationship with yourself. Sure, if there's a guy, husband there then have sex with him. If there is no man present, it's fine to have sex with yourself!

When masturbating you are not breaking rules are you? Are you breaking things, hurting others, hurting yourself? No? Then, go for it.

If you really feel that weird about it, I'd suggest counseling. Talking to a stranger about your sexuality is not shameful. Telling another woman how you feel is a good thing.

Being "on" all the time is normal for some. Feeling sexual is normal. Taking care of sexual feelings is both natural and healthy. Confiding in a girlfriend may let off some of the pressure.

Women masturbate. Some are in happy, and orgasmic marriages or relationships and masturbate. Why do you find it wrong? That's the key.

[Xrayman]

I think it is just your libido returning-the act that you don't want to feel pleasure for yourself is a little disturbing.. it is okay to feel a little embarrassed that you have a extreme urge for sexual release but judging by how you used to be, it really is no different-just returning. I say go for it! You need to experiment with your sexual response-three years denying yourself sexual felings and pleasure is wayyy too long!

Best wishes-it is now time for YOU. After a while you may want to feel sexual with another, but first find out HOW and what you like to do with yourself and then eventually a partner. Look at this time as a dry run (although I suspect it will be very wet ,wink wink), for when a significant other comes into your life in the future.

Best wishes

[Synnen]

You got good advice here--but I'd ALSO recommend talking to your doctor, especially if the change came suddenly.

Your family doctor can rule out any medical causes of this.

[AllAlone6981]

idk.. I just don't understand why its EVERY DAY! lol.. I mean really.. I'm not with anyone, I don't have anyone in my "sights" yet.. so I don't have it on my mind.. Yet its so.. ON? It Never ceases.. lol The few times I have, helped it out, it just comes back later that nite or the next day Just as strong! I feel like there might even be something physical wrong. lol Is that even possible.. lol To be with a permanent hard on as a female?? I think I'm past my prime.. (I'll say over 30 and under 50! lol) idk.. I just find it hard to do anything because it can really be disturbing! I don't want to talk to anyone because I feel like there "looking at me".. lol idk.. thats why I'm here!! Thanks for the Help!!

[Xrayman]

It is possible you have a female version of priapism let me find out...

Priapism - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Or the female equivalent,

Clitorism - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

But I think that this is just a psychosexual response to your long period of abstinence

[Synnen]

And please do not use chat/text speak. While *I* understand that "idk" means "I don't know", it's not a very adult form of speaking.

Please use proper english and full sentences when responding.

[Choux]

Sounds to m e like you are coming out of a depression and coming ALIVE.

There are two impulses in life... the death impulse which includes negativity, desire for illness, complaining, and so on... the death impulse.

Second, the life impulse which includes sexuality, real love, orgasmic response, laughter, positive thinking, happiness, and so on.

Best wishes to you, :)