[candsey]

Hi my friend is pregnant and her boy friend don't want the baby and she want to give her baby up for adoption what does she do?

[mudweiser]

There are many adoption agencies that can be contacted in your state [see yellowpages]. Or if there is a family member, family friend that would want the child.

It all depends on what kind of adoption she wants; a closed one or one that she can follow up.

My best wishes go to her,
MRS.S

[Synnen]

HER decision should have NOTHING to do with what her boyfriend wants. It's her decision, and hers alone.

That being said, she should contact an adoption agency. Many are listed in the phone book, or you can do a Google search in your area.

I really recommend that your friend see a counselor NOT associated with an adoption agency so that she can learn ALL of her options, and make an educated decision.

[stevetcg]

HER decision should have NOTHING to do with what her boyfriend wants. It's her decision, and hers alone.

That being said, she should contact an adoption agency. Many are listed in the phone book, or you can do a google search in your area.

I really recommend that your friend see a counselor NOT associated with an adoption agency so that she can learn ALL of her options, and make an educated decision.

Well, assuming the boyfriend is also the father, it is NOT her decision alone. You know as well as any that both parents have to consent to an adoption proceeding. She can make the decision to put a child up for adoption and if the father does not agree, she can be stuck raising the child (with support) on her own. It sucks, but it wouldn't be the first time.

So yeah... what her boyfriend wants has everything to do with it.

(again, assuming boyfriend is also father)

[Synnen]

On the other side of that (which is what I was thinking of more) is that just because her boyfriend doesn't want the baby doesn't mean that SHE can't be a parent if she wants to. No one can MAKE her choose adoption if it isn't what she wants.

[stevetcg]

On the other side of that (which is what I was thinking of more) is that just because her boyfriend doesn't want the baby doesn't mean that SHE can't be a parent if she wants to. No one can MAKE her choose adoption if it isn't what she wants.

I thought about that once I replied - but the way it read to me was you saying that his wishes don't matter. This is one of those perspective things. You are absolutely right in that respect.

[waiting2bmommy]

Your friend needs to make sure this is 100% what she wants. My husband and I have been waiting for 2 years to adopt, and we are not lone. There are 1000's of families out here waiting for a baby to love.

[Synnen]

your friend needs to make sure this is 100% what she wants. my husband and i have been waiting for 2 years to adopt, and we are not lone. there are 1000's of families out here waiting for a baby to love.

Not to take away from the OP's question here---but have you looked into foster care?

There are tens of thousands of kids in foster care who are out there waiting for a family to love them.

[waiting2bmommy]

Not to take away from the OP's question here---but have you looked into foster care?

There are tens of thousands of kids in foster care who are out there waiting for a family to love them.

We have looked into foster care and have been through all of the classes for it. On the other hand we also have had 2 adoptions that didn't work out. So foster care is not out of the question for us again, but for where we are in life right now, we are hoping for a child to come and never leave.

[kd_sGirl]

I am too looking to adopt so if your friend is still interested in not keeping the child please post back

[Fr_Chuck]

Closed, this is a old thread