I can't like someone

a-s-m-i-8-9 · Mar 9, 2009, 06:37 PM

Hey everybody:) I'm asmaa I'm 19 years old
So my huge problem is :(
That I can't love someone
There are times when I like somebody and when time goes by and I talk to him and stuff
I become not interested in him
Even if he's nice to me and got all that good things
My friends are like ( wooow this good guy likes you and you don't duuuhhh!! )

But I just can't love someone
When I see a couple
I think ( aren't they bored from each other?)
I can't commit :confused:
However I like myself being single cause I have time for my family my friends
I don't know :confused:
Is that normal?

neverme · Mar 9, 2009, 10:45 PM

Yes it's normal.

You'll find someone that will capture your interest.

You seem to be judging yourself on other people's standard of happiness or on what makes them happy.

As long as your happy it doesn't matter what anyone else is doing!

(and that applies to pretty much everything)

Stop worrying, it'll happen for you when the time is right, until then just have fun!

liz28 · Mar 10, 2009, 05:05 AM

Well love takes time. Unlike in the movies your not going to meet someone and magically be in love with them. You've to date them and get to know their character, test your compatabilty with him, etc Then hopefully love would follow. And you can still be with someone and still hang out with your friends and family this is actually healthy. It's good to have a life outside of your relationship and not letting the relationship consume you.

It seems like you want to be someone but I think your letting that word "love" enter into your mind too quick. There's nothing wrong with dating and than meeting someone you enjoy to be around and have something in common with.

MiSSsy111222 · Mar 10, 2009, 08:24 AM

It sounds like to me you haven't met anyone who takes your interest enough. Its not that you cannot love, you haven't found the right person to love. Wait until someone special comes along and it will change.

a-s-m-i-8-9 · Mar 12, 2009, 05:10 AM

I don't
This past few months I met someone
I liked him so much
But now I'm not that into him
And now
I don't like him anymore

kctiger · Mar 12, 2009, 07:02 AM

Originally Posted by a-s-m-i-8-9

i don't
this past few months i met someone
i liked him so much
but now im not that into him
and now
i don't like him anymore

This is the entire point of getting to know someone, and "dating" in general. You VERY rarely follow the "movie" type love, where you just fall head over heals for someone. Most of the time it takes time to get to know someone, and see if you both are truly compatible. That is where the fun comes in, just enjoying each other's company and seeing where it goes from there. Love will take care of itself, it isn't just 'supposed' to happen, it is usually an evolution over time. Just enjoy, take your time, and DON'T worry. Have fun! That is what life is all about. Good luck!