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Jsg021 · Mar 8, 2009, 03:32 PM

What if my ex broke up with me about a year ago and then got a new girl and then got her pregnant. He even asked her to marry him.He was messing around on her with me, and I told her and she didn't believe me. I love him so much and I can't stop thinking about him.. Do I just give up and get over him or do I try to win him back before its too late. :confused:

Lowtax4eva · Mar 8, 2009, 03:37 PM

Common sense would say to walk away and forget him but I doubt you will. He doesn't sound like avery good guy and even if you got him to leave her and come back to you he would probably always have a girl on the side

StarCrossedUK · Mar 8, 2009, 03:40 PM

Oh dear. There really is no way of this ending happily. I think you would be best to cut your losses and move on. Nobody who treats people like that is going to be good for a person. *hugs*

nikosmom · Mar 8, 2009, 03:57 PM

Originally Posted by Jsg021

What if my ex broke up with me about a year ago and then got a new girl and then got her pregnant. He even asked her to marry him.He was messing around on her with me, and i told her and she didnt believe me. I love him so much and i can't stop thinking about him.. Do i just give up and get over him or do i try to win him back before its too late. :confused:

Gee, he sounds like a real gem.

What would you be winning exactly? A lying, cheating, low-down, LOSER. Being his second choice doesn't mean you've "won".

I'm sure you think telling her makes you the bigger person because you're "coming clean" but it doesn't. If he wants to marry this other girl and try to be a stand-up family guy, why not let them have that chance? Sure it probably won't work out but don't stick around waiting on him. If this other girl wants to live with her head in the clouds, let her. They have a child on the way and things are going to be difficult enough as is without you complicating it further by trying to get back with him.

Don't let him continue to use you. Take my 2 cents and go buy some self-respect.

friend4u178 · Mar 8, 2009, 04:01 PM

He's with someone else and has a child on the way. Therefore he is OFF LIMITS.

He's obviously made his choice and now he's using you as a booty call.

So ask yourself , if you were to get him back could you ever trust him?? Do yourself a favour and leave him alone and move on.

And stop letting him use you to get his cheap thrills.

chuff · Mar 8, 2009, 04:08 PM

Let's start at the end and work from there.

Originally Posted by Jsg021

Do i just give up and get over him or do i try to win him back before its too late. :confused:

Before it's to late... you mean before this happens?

Originally Posted by Jsg021

my ex broke up with me about a year ago

Or this...

Originally Posted by Jsg021

and then got a new girl

Or this...

Originally Posted by Jsg021

and then got her pregnant.

Or this...

Originally Posted by Jsg021

He even asked her to marry him.

Or this...

Originally Posted by Jsg021

He was messing around on her with me,

Even if he is a cheater and that was proven by his actions, why not tell her?

Originally Posted by Jsg021

i told her and she didnt believe me.

Oh. I didn't see that one coming.

Originally Posted by Jsg021

I love him so much and i can't stop thinking about him..

What exactly about him do you love again?

Jsg021 · Mar 8, 2009, 04:39 PM

Well Thank you guys.. I guess love is blind.. erverytime I say I'm over him, somethng tells me I'm not. I don't want to keep holding on to something that was suppose to been DEAD, but I don't know how to get over it.

friend4u178 · Mar 8, 2009, 04:43 PM

Originally Posted by Jsg021

Well Thank you guys.. i guess love is blind.. erverytime i say im over him, somethng jus tells me im not. I dont want to keep holding on to something that was suppose to been DEAD, but i jus dnt kno how to get over it.

It just takes time , and until you let go you won't start healing. You get stuck on the emotional rollercoaster and small things will fuel False Hope. So you go 2 steps forward and then 1 step back and the healing process takes longer.

Let it go and start healing.

chuff · Mar 8, 2009, 04:44 PM

Originally Posted by Jsg021

Well Thank you guys.. i guess love is blind.. erverytime i say im over him, somethng jus tells me im not. I dont want to keep holding on to something that was suppose to been DEAD, but i jus dnt kno how to get over it.

Step one is to get away from him. You don't have to be his booty call. You don't even have to talk to him. The best decision you can make for yourself it to give yourself permission to get away from him and start the rest of your future now.

nikosmom · Mar 8, 2009, 04:47 PM

It'll be a little tough at first but you'll look back and say to yourself, "What was I thinking?!"

And you have to let go of him in order to make room for someone to come into your life that will treat you well.

friend4u178 · Mar 8, 2009, 04:49 PM

Originally Posted by nikosmom

It'll be a little tough at first but you'll look back and say to yourself, "What was I thinking?!"

And you have to let go of him in order to make room for someone to come into your life that will treat you well.

Had to spread the rep nikosmom but that's exactly right.

When one door closes another one opens. But the new door won't open until you let the old door close.

MsMewiththat · Mar 8, 2009, 04:58 PM

Please think about the baby, allow it a chance to have a happy family life. At least don't be a psrt of the problem