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    MiSSsy111222 Posts: 267, Reputation: 29
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    Mar 8, 2009, 04:26 AM
    Future marriage issues
    Salam alaikum

    Hello everyone, in the past I have made a very big mistake, may allah have mercy upon me. I tried to have a relationship the none islamic way. This was a very big mistake, as now I'm suffering because of my actions. I feel as I have disappointed myself, then I think of how allah must feel about the situation. Well now I realise the importance of marriages practiced the islamic way. A little to late I guess because now the deed has been done. The problem is that now I have a repuatation of being with this single boy, our relationship was open. And he does not have the bestest repuation. At the time I did not care about what people said, I had high expectations of the relationship even know all the signs of a bad relationship was there. It ended badly with him with no intresterst of marrying me or trying to make it work. This effected me badly.

    Well now I'm left heartbroken and dissapointed. I let myself down and now I suffer because of my actions. I'm trying to pull myself together because I have realised now my mistakes and I would like to make a better life for myself. I would like to become a better muslim. This has made me think about the future and marriage. How do I go around getting married with a reputation. Other sisters say don't worry your future is written. My family is not in the muslim community so I think it will be harder to find a suitable partner. I don't want to get married anytime soon, but I'm just thinking ahead.

    Any advice please.

    As salaam alaikum wa rahmatullah wa barakatu
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    Mar 8, 2009, 05:57 AM

    In my opinion, you should try not to worry about it so much.

    In time it shall pass and you will find someone to love and marry. Don't rush it and don't stress over it.

    If you really believe that you have made a mistake with your actions then learn from it but do not let it consume you.
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    Mar 8, 2009, 06:00 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Dragonfire24 View Post
    In my opinion, you should try not to worry about it so much.

    In time it shall pass and you will find someone to love and marry. Don't rush it and don't stress over it.

    If you really believe that you have made a mistake with your actions then learn from it but do not let it consume you.
    Yes you are right, its just on my mind and I guess I am letting it comsume me
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