[fantasyday]

I can't figure out why we broke-up, please help.

Here is the story.
I have been with my girlfriend for over 2 years, and recently we had some troubles.
We are not 100% perfect for each other, but I can accept that, her temper, her everything. Of course I had something that didn’t perfectly match her too. Though we fought some time, we actually had some good memories; I was happy with her and want to spend my life with her. In January I even met her parents, we talked about our future.

Recently, I found out that she always get phone call at night, even over 12 o’clock. So I asked her what’s up. She said nothing but a friend; she never cheated me so I believed what she said and stopped asking. It turned out that she got another guy, who is exactly the man her expected. It happened just when we get back from her family.

She said she feels sorry, and she doesn’t think they will work out but she can’t stop thinking about him. I was very angry but soon I accept the fact, and I knew I love her, it is all because I can’t give her what she wants, so I asked her not to go, “if you can forget that guy I still wanna be together” I said. She said it will let her feel guilty but nothing. She suggested we took apart for a while, so I rent a new house and moved out. Before I moved out we wrote some letters for each other, really lovely and warmed my heart. She wrote if we are single 3 year later, maybe we will get back together, love you so much,etc.
I always waiting for the answer that she said she could forget that guy, so I can forgive everything and stay with her. But until I moved out, she still just said “Don’t go” repeatedly but not mentioned what’s about the guy. I still want to go back to her, but I know there is something that we have to figure out:
1. What’s her feeling? She needs to make a decision between him and me. Until then I can’t do anything but wait.
2. What I can do for her? I forgot to mention that she said stay with me was too boring, go to work, go off work, take dinner and go to sleep. Everyday is exactly the same, peaceful is not she wants, she wants life with some surprise which was I can’t give.

So when the day I moved out, I decide stop contacting her. But that night she called me why I didn’t call her? I thought took apart for a while was what she said, so I just don’t call, until you and me figure out the questions above. She was angry, said she want to took apart but not so far away even without contact. I was confused.

Today, she said when the day I moved out, she decided never meets the guy again, but she didn’t tell me that, which was exactly I was waiting for. And when she feels lonely I was not there for her, even without a call. I asked why you made the decision but didn’t tell me? I didn’t call you because we were on the kind of break. And the conversation was over, she said it is too late, she don’t want to talk any more, let’s just break up.

I'm wondering it is her who had complained about our life, and gets another guy. I accept that and forgive her, what else can I do? And I did say want her stay but she didn’t take that. God I love this girl but what else can I do? Should I just let her go this way? Maybe it’s too late to do anything, but I still can’t figure out what’s her thinking about.

Sorry for the long story, I really need some suggestion, thank you.

[yaode3zy]

Doesn't seem too late to me. I wonder, how old is she? Seems like she feels she is letting her life slip away to everyday routines, which can be terrifying, even to us guys! It just depends on the person.
If you do get back together, something will have to be different. Communication is key! Find out what it is she feels she is not getting from you and try to compromise.
Keep the fire burning, brother! Small surprises go a long way, especially with sex. Work on conversations though. She seems to love you very much, and you the same to her. As for what kind of suprises, just throwing things out there: A slap in the butt every once in a while, crack jokes, get a dog, run the next "Jose feed the Hungry" 10 kilometer marathon, cook together for dinner, find a television show that both of you like to watch, a quick trip to the ice cream shop before bed... There must be something both of you enjoy, once or twice a week.
Hope that helped =/