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mexcelaya · Mar 1, 2009, 11:43 AM

I like a new sophomore girl at school but I don't know if she likes me? She does sit in front of me at lunch, and she laughs at my jokes sometimes, but she doesn't talk to me unless I talk to her. I don't know if she's shy or really not in to me.

arnimal7 · Mar 1, 2009, 11:59 AM

Well the only way to know is to ask her out. She might feel the same way about you. Just remember to play it cool.

Clough · Mar 1, 2009, 03:43 PM

Hi, mexcelaya!

My first impression, is that it sounds like something that will just take some time and patience on your part and that she is probably just shy.

How long have you already been speaking with her, please?

Thanks!

mexcelaya · Mar 1, 2009, 03:53 PM

Well she just came new to the school like 1 week ago

Clough · Mar 1, 2009, 04:16 PM

If she's that new to the school, then she's also no doubt still finding her way around and is perhaps maybe still a little bit nervous because of things being new to her. She also might not be in a hurry to be with someone who might be like a boyfriend to her so soon, but might just appreciate some kind friendship of others.

Suggestion: How about asking her how she feels about school and if there's anything that you might be able to help her with in order for her to feel more comfortable in her new surroundings?

Just some thoughts for you...

Thanks!

mexcelaya · Mar 1, 2009, 04:19 PM

Thanks man I ll do that

Clough · Mar 1, 2009, 04:22 PM

Okay, that's cool! Please let us know how things go!

Thanks!

dontknownuthin · Mar 1, 2009, 11:06 PM

If you aren't sure about her feelings yet, you could plan something with a group of friends and ask her to go with you to meet everyone. She's surely looking to make new friends, and if you invite her to go and pick her up, it can be kind of a date, but with less pressure since you'll be with other people.

mexcelaya · Mar 2, 2009, 08:02 PM

Yea lets say I ask her if she wants to go to the movies and she says NO then what?

neverme · Mar 2, 2009, 08:25 PM

Then your going to have to take it that she doesn't like you and move on.

One way or another, even if she says 'No' as a jerk reaction or because she is shy, then the balls in her court.

Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

dontknownuthin · Mar 2, 2009, 08:38 PM

I have to agree with neverme... I mean, you need to find out. This is making you crazy. So, you ask her and she gives you an answer, and there you have it. YOu either have a date which is the beginning of finding out if you're right for each other; or she tells you something else you need to know... she may not think of you that way, or might just be confused and need some time, or may want to be on her own for a while or a thousand other things. But if you ask, you know more than you do now and baswed on that you can decide what to do next.

mexcelaya · Mar 2, 2009, 08:40 PM

Got cha thanks

Clough · Mar 3, 2009, 12:47 AM

Originally posted by mexcelaya
Yea lets say I ask her if she wants to go to the movies and she says NO then what?

Originally posted by neverme
Then your going to have to take it that she doesn't like you and move on. One way or another, even if she says 'No' as a jerk reaction or because she is shy, then the balls in her court. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Originally posted by dontknownuthin
I have to agree with neverme... I mean, you need to find out. This is making you crazy. So, you ask her and she gives you an answer, and there you have it. YOu either have a date which is the beginning of finding out if you're right for each other; or she tells you something else you need to know... she may not think of you that way, or might just be confused and need some time, or may want to be on her own for a while or a thousand other things. But if you ask, you know more than you do now and baswed on that you can decide what to do next.

Hi again, mexcelaya!

If she says "No", that doesn't necessarily mean that she doesn't like you. It could mean any number of things. Finding out if she's "right" for you can take quite a bit of time. I see absolutely no need to be rushing things here concerning a possible relationship. My suggestion would be to just chill and be yourself like to have been and also just try to be her friend without any sort of pressure on her.

You'll gain more in the long run right now by just trying and being there as just her friend. The more time you take to get to know her and understand her as a friend and find out things that she likes or doesn't like, the more likely that she'll be interested in going out with you on a date at some point in the future. Showing her that you're interested in her concerns is something that she'll appreciate much more than just point blank asking her out without first getting to know her more.

Now, I know that is all just my opinion, but you might want to give it a try. It's true that nothing ventured, nothing gained. However, carefully planning the route and things necessary for the venture makes to better insure the likelihood of success along the way and at the end.

Thanks!