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lizen · Feb 23, 2009, 09:03 AM

We never went out we were just friends with benofit and we had been together for all most
4 year and I don't know what to say and we do ever thing together but when he is with his friends we don't talk and he acts like he don't know me and there is nothing going on so what do I do and I reallly like himmm??

Justwantfair · Feb 23, 2009, 09:08 AM

Well apparently he just really like to have sex with friends and have someone willing to spread their legs just for him.

You are devoted to a relationship that isn't there. He is just using you and after four years, you need to move away from this situation. You are stopping your life for a guy who only wants to get laid by you.

neverme · Feb 23, 2009, 04:28 PM

I call that being used.

liz28 · Feb 23, 2009, 07:48 PM

I don't think your being used because you enter into this agreement of having sex with him and I am sure it didn't say anything about him having relations with you outside of the bedroom.

Seems like your getting sick of this so I think it's time to start looking foir someone that wants more than sex and wouldn't ignore you in public. Don't you think? Or are you willing to waste another 4 years of your life?

neverme · Feb 23, 2009, 07:53 PM

Not talking to her when she's out, but sleeping with her is terrible.

Maybe I used the wrong word though, your right.

More like.. disrespected. Apologies.

liz28 · Feb 23, 2009, 08:04 PM

People only do what we allow them to do and she accepts his behavior and treatment by still sleeping with him because if it was me he wouldn't be ib my bed.

However, she never said they were in a relationship only friends with benefits for 4 years.

How she does it is beyond me but she accepts it so she has fault in this situation too.

neverme · Feb 23, 2009, 08:13 PM

She asked 'what do you call this', I answered, wordly badly first, then corrected.

I don't doubt that she's at fault and I believe that one does only receive the treatment you allow, so we agree there!

Justwantfair · Feb 23, 2009, 10:28 PM

The effects of a "friends with benefits" relationship are more often greater for a female than they tend to be with males. It is the set up that A lot of men desire all sex, no strings. Women are emotional bound and tend to develop feelings through sex and find themselves in a relationship that is often one sided.

You either face him and tell him all sex is off, I want more and mean it or you leave and find that whole package that is out there, relationship and sex - the man willing to tell the world they love you.

Good luck to you and God bless.

neverme · Feb 24, 2009, 08:16 AM

I'd say leave and find the whole package out there.

Because if FWB was agreed then he doesn't want anything else, we can clearly see this in the fact that he doesn't even want to talk to you when he's out?

Walk away, you deserve better than this, and will get it!

Fr_Chuck · Feb 24, 2009, 09:22 AM

Sounds like a old married couple almost

But it is merely a self pleasure, if both parties are not getting equal benefit, then it is one being used