[A17]

How does a broken heart heal after you loved someone so much.

[neverme]

Yes it does.

It takes a long time, but you will be OK.

Read the stickies in the relationship forum, hopefully they can help. I know they make a lot of sense to me... and many others.

Try to vent, go NC, or no contact, cry when you have to and laugh when you can and after a while you'll see that the latter has far outdone the former.

Best of Luck.

[liz28]

It feels like you just got hit by a mac truck and don't have any mediation to take for the pain especially if the break-up is still fresh.

However, with the time the pain will heal and your start to feel better. Because time heals all broken wounds.

In the meantime don't drown in this pain and let it take over your life. Don't listen to sad music listen to something upbeat. My favorite break-up song is "I will srvive" by Arthea Franklin. Don't watch love movies. I found that when I am hurting comedies movies are very uplifting. Hang out with friends and most importantly get rid of everything that remind you of him, including pictures, gifts, etc

I wish there was some sort of magic portion to take for this but there isn't so you have to do it the old fashion way. But don't worry evreyone has been there.

[Teacher7]

It takes time and distance. If you continue to look over your shoulder you will miss the great one in front of you. Just give it time I promise it will get better!

[Nestorian]

How does a broken heart heal after you loved someone so much.

Love is like heroin. When you got it, it's amazing. When you don't it's dreadfully painful. You will go through a long time of sadness because you focus on that which you lost. Personally I don't think you ever heal from it, you simply learn to let it go, and so you find other reasons to be happy.

Best advice to you, Take time to cry, sit alone and play sad music for about 10-15 minutes, but no more. Then get up, change the music to happy, really energenic songs that make you feel good. And do something you like, even if it's just dancing in your bed room. Or my personal choice singing. Start going for walks, talk to friends, join a club and most importantly get to know yourself again; because now you are a different person, on accont of giving so much of yourself to some one, you need to find out who you are again. Learn to forgive yourself, love yourself, and take care of yourself.

For me, the pain still persists 2 and a half years later. We were together for 4 years, and she cheated on me with aonther guy, and decided he was the one. I'm still mad, and hurt, all the same, but I know that I still love her too. This means I want her to be happy, and if that's what makes her happy then so be it. Now I have to focus on what makes me happy, because love is not just a feeling, it's a responsibility. "Don't be reckless with other people's hearts, and dont' put up with people who are reckless with yours." - every body if free to wear sun screen.

They say, "the best things in life are worth waiting for."- unknown

Peace and kindness be with you.