[dtcandelaria]

Hi,

Should a Christian woman file a divorce or should she wait until her spouse divorce her ? Tks/D.

[jakester]

I think this is a loaded question. Perhaps if you really need perspective on a marriage, you may want to consider talking this thing out with someone you are willing to be objective with. Looking for someone to tell you (or whoever is asking the question) it's okay to file for a divorce or not okay is not really a responsible approach to the matter.

This is a serious question but it lacks any details of the circumstances and so to me is an inappropriate question to ask. It's not like you are asking whether we think you should get a #5 or a #6 from McDonald's. With a good conscience, I could never respond to such a question without knowing the circumstances of the parties involved.

Sincerely.

[classyT]

WEll I agree with Jakester... it is a loaded question. It depends on so many things. The bible is clear that if adultery is an issue you have the right to divorce and remarry. According to Pauls' writings... If your spouse is unsaved and leaves YOU... you are free to marry again as long as you marry a believer. If you cannot get along... you may separate and remain that way until your spouse dies. That is all pretty biblical.

Having said that.. sometimes it isn't black and white. There can be a host of reasons other than just not getting along. I believe ABUSE, Neglect, damaging your children, drugs, being in danger... all types of really bad situations go on in marriage. I believe the Lord gives us wisdom to know when enough is enough. And he will always forgive divorce but I would advise you try everything possible to stay together. Sometimes we humans get in such a mess... it is necessary to get out. That is my take. Hope it helps.

[Fr_Chuck]

Are they separated all ready?

What is the reason or desire for the divorce

Please tell us about the situation