[Holic]

For the past few months I have been talking to this really cool girl I met. Im not usually a person that just go's up to someone and make's conversations, we live on campus in colege so it was easier being a freshman and everything, but we started talking and hanging out a lot plus we had a class togeter. About 2 weeks later I had asked her out she had told me no and that she just got out of a bad relationship. I thought that she didn't like me but we started hanging out all the time going. We would talk for hours in her room or on the phone about relationships. I was giving her time to see if she liked me and she told me about her ex's and why she didn't want a boyfriend because she got hurt so bad. When she would go over to my friends room and I wasn't there she would ask were I was and usually leave. I was hoping I hadn't crossed the friend line. The toward the end of the fall semseter it actually snowed at the school which hardly ever happens I guess. We went and out side and she and I through snowballs at each other and started wresaling in the snow but I didn't know if I should make my move.
After that we went home for winter break and I didn't want to appear I missed her a lot so I only called once a week to see how she was doing. We got back and started hanging out again but she was staying on line a lot. I remember she had talked about one of her friends. And she had said her friends were going to come up that weekend.
So I went up to her room on that Thursday, she was talking to her friend I didn't mean to read there conversation but it was there and we were working on math homework. I don't remember the exact words but he said something like my girlfreind is all far away now. And she wrote back "what" then wrote "o i got confused" she was like I don't have anyone up here then she took a little while to respond because she asked me about a math question and downed the page she was talking on. The messenger page blinked and she brought it up he said o you don't like me calling you my girlfriend.
That hit me so hard I felt sick and everything the way she talked as if she never wanted to have a boy friend and now she was already in a relationship. I hadn't eaten all day and I told her I wasn't feeling well because of that but I felt so mad and it hurt a lot to find out like that. Well the next day here friends were coming over and I saw them go to her room because I helped her give then directions to the campus before she meet up with them and that made me even more jealous. A couple of days later I asked her if she was going out with her friend. She said "he wants to" and I said " well do you like him" "well it's a long distance relationship i don't know how it is going to work" then I said well mabe you could try it out and see how it go's.

Know that basically were I am now they have been talking a lot and I don't hang out with her too much unless she has a question in math but I ussally just hang with my friends and she come's over for a few minutes. I want to ask her these questions but don't know if I should because they don't really matter. Like if she didn't like me why didn't she tell me I know there were so hint's but she also made hint's that she did like me so I was confused. Then I just need to know how to stop thinking about her even though we barely hang out. I just feel so stupid that I thought she actually like me but she never asked about my past relationships we only had talked about hers. I remember my friend saying don't get addicted when we had first started hanging out a lot but it was to late.

Well even if I don't get this question answered thanks for whoever reads this and a few comments would be nice

[Romefalls19]

If you can't separate your feelings from liking her to just being a friend, then take some time off. Relax and get your head back on start, she's not the only girl around campus. If I was in college and single, I would be that guy you see walking up to every girl and starting conversations. Life is passing you by, should you sit aruond watching it?

[kctiger]

If you can't seperate your feelings from liking her to just being a friend, then take some time off. Relax and get your head back on start, she's not the only girl around campus. If I was in college and single, I would be that guy you see walking up to every girl and starting conversations. Life is passing you by, should you sit aruond watching it?

I cannot emphasize this point enough... ENJOY YOURSELF man!!